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  • Lei of Aloha

    Lei of Aloha

    In Hawai‘i, any occasion can be made more special by the giving of a lei. Whether it’s for love, a celebration or to honor someone, you can choose the one that symbolizes the sentiment you want to convey or select the one that suits your taste. All represent the rich heritage of the lei.

    Lei Day, May 1, is dedicated to the Hawaiian tradition of making and giving lei. But some may not know the the tradition entails much more than the officially dedicated day. The traditions that surround lei make them appropriate for many occasions. Hawaiian tradition also offers particular lei for celebrations and seasonal events.

    Giving a lei symbolizes friendship, love, respect and honor. It is a gift for greeting someone warmly. It represents the spirit of aloha. Its beauty and meaning flow from the heart of the giver.

    A Hawaiian Tradition

    The tradition of adorning themselves with wreaths of local vines and flowers to honor their gods came to Hawai‘i with the Polynesians who settled here long ago. They brought with them many of the plants they needed for daily life — plants for medicinal use, plants for food and plants that they brought for their sweet scent for use as a personal embellishment.

    In their new island home, lei came to signify royalty, rank, status and wealth. The geography of the area, the religion of its people and the tradition of the hula were all associated with the lei they wore. As time passed, they developed their own unique culture and traditions.

    The new Native Hawaiians found many other items, including hala and maile, that could be fashioned into adornments. In Old Hawai‘i, lei were created with the lush flowers, vines and leaf stems of every kind from every island — even seaweed from the rich Hawaiian waters. Lei were also made with ivory, bone, seeds, kukui nuts, hair, teeth, shells and feathers.

    The pupu lei was made from shells and the hulu manu lei was made from feathers. Niho palaoa lei were made of the bones of the walrus and whale held together by human hair, which were passed down through generations.

    Other plants and materials were introduced later, such as the carnation, orchid and plumeria.

    Kapono Kamaunu learned about Hawaiian culture, hula, chanting and more from Kumu Hula Keli‘i Tau‘ā.
    Kapono Kamaunu learned about Hawaiian culture, hula, chanting and more from Kumu Hula Keli‘i Tau‘ā.

    Lei and Hula

    What Kapono Kamaunu knows about lei and Hawaiian culture, he didn’t learn growing up. He was raised on O‘ahu, where his childhood activities and interests mostly revolved around Waikīkī Beach and sports. When he moved to Maui in 1993, he met Kumu Hula Keli‘i Tau‘ā, a teacher at Baldwin High School. As a freshman, he not only learned about hula and chanting, but other aspects of the Hawaiian culture, as well.

    Kapono and his wife, Priscilla, became kumu hula 10 years later, offering training for hālau hula on Zoom since the pandemic began. They own and run a home-based hula implement-making business called “Na Kani O Hula.” Kapono works as a cultural advisor at the Fairmont Kealani and performs at the Old Lāhainā Lū‘au, as well.

    “Through hula, we learned about lei-making, Hawaiian history and culture,” he says.

    In Old Hawai‘i, the major types of lei were each related to different spirits and used for different reasons. Many were related to Hawaiian myths and religious customs, Kapono says.

    Brief descriptions of lei-making styles“It goes back to hula,” says Kapono. “For most of the year, the lives of the Hawaiian people were strictly governed by a set of laws called ‘kapu.’ Everything they did was directed by these kapu, including hula. But during the Makahiki season (October or November through February or March), the ancient Hawaiian New Year festival in honor of Lono, many kapu were suspended. This time of year, kane (men) were allowed to perform hula on heiau, traditional religious temples. Makahiki was a time of peace, gathering and hula performances without restriction. For ceremonial purposes, hula dancers would wear lei.”

    Kapono and his wife Priscilla own and run a home-based hula implement making business.
    Kapono and his wife Priscilla own and run a home-based hula implement-making business.

    Traditionally, hula dancers wear specific lei to reflect the dance they are performing, especially in a competition setting. Dancers tie in the story — the chant or mo‘ōlelo — its setting and the flowers, ferns and other materials found in the location relevant to the story, says Kapono.

    “In hula, we say kinolau — the divine is everywhere, and everything is the divine. It is the physical embodiment of the many Hawaiian gods and goddesses.”

    “After asking permission from Laka first, hula dancers would gather ferns, such as palapalai, laua‘e ferns and maile, for their adornments in ceremonial performances and other practices as well,” says Kapono. “The gathered vines, leaves or flowers were placed on the kuahu hula (hula altar) dedicated to Laka.”

    “Whatever is in the song, we aim for the closest possible representation.”

    “For example, Pele and her sister Hi‘iaka are represented by the red flowers of the ‘ohi‘a lehua brought to the islands by the Polynesians settlers. So when you do a dance about Pele, you would wear a haku (braided) lei or a lei po‘o made of ‘ohi‘a lehua, as well as a lei a‘i (a neck lei).”

    For centuries, lei made from the fragrant leaves of maile have been used to communicate love, respect, blessing, enduring devotion, reverence, friendship and a desire for peace.
    For centuries, lei made from the fragrant leaves of maile have been used to communicate love, respect, blessing, enduring devotion, reverence, friendship and a desire for peace.

    Traditional Meanings and Uses of Lei

    One of the most popular of all the lei varieties was the maile lei, made from a leaf-covered vine with a sweet and spicy scent. This vine was worn around the neck, draping freely down to the waist. The maile lei was related to the spirit of the hula dance and represented Laka, the goddess of hula, as well as other sacred spirits.

    For chieftains and members of royalty, the ilima was preferred. The full, lush lei was made from hundreds of delicate orange blossoms.

    The ti plant has a long tradition of being planted outside homes to keep evil spirits away. Ti stalks were used to proclaim peace and to call a truce. A lei was made by tying ti leaves together. The open lei was worn by physicians and priests.

    Limu kala, a type of seaweed, was gathered and used in many different ways — for religious purposes, as medicine, for consumption or as a lei. Traditionally, limu kala was gathering, fashioned into a lei and worn by a person suffering from an illness. The ill person or a kahuna would then pray to Kanaloa. When prayers were completed, the wearer of the lei would fully immerse him or herself in the ocean. In time, the lei would be swept into the sea as an offering to Kanaloa, in hopes of cleansing the wearer of the aliment.

    Lei Traditions of Yesterday and Today

    By fusing their island lifestyle with their  sacred rituals and the natural elements around them, Hawaiians created lei that began to be worn for virtually every occasion by both commoners (maka‘ainānā) and chiefs (ali‘i) alike.

    A lei po‘o is any lei that is worn around the head. What is often referred to as a haku lei is actually a lei po‘o crafted in the haku style.
    A lei po‘o is any lei that is worn around the head. What is often referred to as a haku lei is actually a lei po‘o crafted in the haku style.

    “Today, lei are used for an array of occasions and it is widely accepted throughout Hawai‘i Nei that any type of lei can be worn by anyone and everyone,” says Kapono. “One thing that hasn’t changed is that the giving of a lei symbolizes giving your mana to someone else.”

    Mana is a supernatural force that may be ascribed to persons, spirits or inanimate objects. It may be good or evil; beneficial or dangerous.

    “When we are making lei, we want to ensure that we are putting the best of our spiritual energy into the lei,” says Kapono, “so when we give it to someone, we are giving them good energy, connection and love. Lei are the quintessential symbol
    of love; of aloha.”

    The type of flower made into a lei and gifted to a loved one has more to do with personal preference and seasonal availability than symbolism, says Kapono.

    Although the lei of today are much like those worn in Old Hawai‘i when the first Polynesians settled the islands, their meaning and presentation has changed over the years.

    Lei in Old Hawai‘i symbolized the status of the wearer and were presented by bowing and holding out the lei for the recipient to take.

    “Traditionally, it was disrespectful to drape a lei over a person’s head, particularly when that someone was royalty,” says Kapono. “You do not want someone to interfere with your connection to Akua by having them cut off your mana.” This presentation method gave the recipient the option of taking it and putting it on themselves, giving it away, putting it on an altar or taking it to the ocean. “Because, just as lei are made and presented with love, they can also have bad intentions.”

    Adorned with a bounty of colorful lei, the regal pa‘u riders and their horses are the highlight of every parade
    Adorned with a bounty of colorful lei, the regal pa‘u riders and their horses are the highlight of every parade

    Around the 1840s, when Steamer Days or Boat Days began at Aloha Tower and Honolulu Harbor, visitors were greeted with armloads of lei. It may have been at this time that lei began to be placed over the heads of those arriving or departing, accompanied by a kiss on the cheek. That particular tradition came to a halt with the arrival of jet planes in the 1950s. To accommodate visitors, Daniel K. Inouye International Airport’s lei stands are located in the area.

    Although most islanders believe that anyone can wear any type of lei for any occasion, Hawaiian tradition dictates the use of specific lei that are symbolic of the occasion, related to the season and dependent on the time of year the flower is in bloom. Worn at other times, it can bring the wearer bad luck.

    For example, a lei made from the yellow, orange and red keys of the pineapple-like hala fruit interlaced with maile leaf or laua‘e fern can be worn at the beginning of Makahiki season, the Hawaiian New Year. Worn at this time, the hala lei invites good luck, pushes bad luck aside and prompts the wearer to forgive past grudges. However, worn at other times of the year, it can bring the wearer bad luck. The lei is associated with death and is often worn at funerals.

    Although there is significant meaning associated with the giving of a lei, it is open to different interpretations by the maker, seller, giver or recipient. But it may be wise to be aware of certain traditional details.

    “Some people still believe that it is inappropriate to give a pregnant woman a closed lei,” says Kapono. “An open lei may be given, as it symbolizes that the baby will be unencumbered and unharmed by the umbilical cord, ensuring it will not be tangled around its neck in the womb.”

    Lei are often referenced as being created in a circle to symbolize love and the family circle. “Lei, like many of our nāmea Hawai‘i (Hawaiian arts), have grown and evolved into priceless artifacts that are shared around the world. Whether it’s an heirloom feather lei, a lei pupu that is passed down from generation to generation, or lei made from fragrant flowers and beautiful ferns, the joy of gifting and receiving a lei filled with the aloha spirit can brighten anyone’s day — even during the darkest of times.”

    Ku‘ulei Ka‘ae makes and sells lei from Pua Melia, her stand near Daniel K. Inouye International Airport. Ku‘ulei’s family began selling lei four generations ago, beginning with her great-grandparents. The other women selling lei here are also descendants of the original Native Hawaiian airport lei sellers.
    Ku‘ulei Ka‘ae makes and sells lei from Pua Melia, her stand near Daniel K. Inouye International Airport. Ku‘ulei’s family began selling lei four generations ago, beginning with her great-grandparents. The other women selling lei here are also descendants of the original Native Hawaiian airport lei sellers.
    Ku‘ulei Ka‘ae
    Ku‘ulei Ka‘ae

    A Family Tradition: Love From the Lei-Sellers

    “That is what we have to offer in this pandemic — love. I know that when people receive lei, they feel the love we put into them,” says Ku‘ulei Ka‘ae, who makes and sells lei from her stand near Daniel K. Inouye International Airport. “I don’t think a lot of people realize what a lei can do for a person. The type of lei you give is a personal choice. Whether it is pikake, plumeria, ginger, pakalana or double tuberose, the giver must love the flower as it is a symbol and extension of their love for the recipient.”

    Ku‘ulei’s family began selling lei four generations ago, beginning with her great-grandparents. They sold in different locations, such as Chinatown and Aloha Tower. Their daughter, Sophia Ventura, Ku‘ulei’s grandmother, had a 1932 Ford truck that her husband equipped with hooks for displaying the lei. She also sold lei at Fort DeRussy — the only lei seller there. She was later invited to set up shop near the access road of the then Aeronautics Aviation Airport.

    Ku‘ulei was around 9 when the stands moved to Lagoon Drive in 1963. “My mother and I were the first ones to open our doors in this new building.” In the early 1990s, they were relocated to the concrete building they now occupy.

    The women selling lei at this location are descendants of the original Native Hawaiian airport lei sellers. Since Ku‘ulei is the only daughter in her family, her mother gave her Pua Melia, the Airport Lei Stand she operates to this day.

    “The only time I ever got a lei growing up was  when my mom brought home a plumeria lei for May Day. I wondered, why a plumeria? I asked my mom why I couldn’t have a double carnation lei or pikake. She said, ‘Because the plumeria is the most beautiful flower. One day you will understand.’ The point was, when you get a lei, it is from the heart. It is aloha; it is love. When you are younger, you don’t really understand the depth and meaning.”

    “Then when I was in ninth grade, she brought me a double carnation. I was so thrilled! When I went to school, I put it on. I took it off about a half-hour later and gave it to a friend because I realized it didn’t mean anything to me. It wasn’t from my mother’s heart. She only got it for me because I asked for it. Oh how I wished I had that plumeria lei — it meant the world to me! I realized what my mother was saying. The most beautiful lei comes from the heart.”

    “I will wear your love as a lei,” Ku‘ulei recited in Hawaiian.”

    Hawai‘i’s lei have become revered all over the world for their beauty and fragrance. “Today, many lei or hula practitioners teach the traditional art and practices of lei, continuing to strengthen our heritage through our younger generation, visitors and practitioners abroad so we can wrap a lei of peace and aloha around the entire world,” says Kapono.

     

    Lei Day, May 1, is dedicated to the Hawaiian tradition of making and giving lei. But some may not know the the tradition entails much more than the officially dedicated day. The traditions that surround lei make them appropriate for many occasions. Hawaiian tradition also offers particular lei for celebrations and seasonal events.

  • Forgotten Filipino Veterans Continue Fight for Long-Overdue Recognition, Benefits & Honors

    Filipino veterans such as the late Domingo Los Banos worked hard to educate the community about their role in WWII.
    Filipino veterans such as the late Domingo Los Banos worked hard to educate the community about their role in WWII.

    On July 26, 1941, President Franklin Roosevelt called upon all organized military forces of the Philippines into the service under the US Army Forces in the Far East. When Pearl Harbor and Manila were attacked on Dec. 7, 1941, these soldiers were brought into direct combat as the US officially entered World War II. During the Japanese invasion of the Philippines, US and Filipino soldiers fought together in many battles across the Philippine islands, including the battles in Bataan, Corrigedor, Luzon and Leyte.

    BATAAN DEATH MARCH

    The Japanese army had carefully orchestrated a unified military attack to conquer the Pacific and to defeat the US. The attack of the Philippines began 10 hours after Pearl Harbor. In a mere month, the Japanese captured the capital of Manila. The combined military forces held strong for three months on Bataan and the island of Corregidor, even with no naval and air support. But ultimately, the ravages of disease and starvation led to Gen. Edward King Jr. surrendering his 76,000 troops in Bataan.

    First Reconnaissance Team Parachute Company 1943.
    First Reconnaissance Team Parachute Company 1943.

    During the Battle of Corregidor, the Japanese army forced Filipino and American prisoners of war to march 65 miles from the Bataan Peninsula to San Fernando — the brutal Bataan Death March.  between 60,000 and 80,000 Filipinos and Americans marched through the jungles to confinement camps throughout the Philippines. They were deprived of food, water and medical attention — many were killed on the spot if they stopped to rest. During the march, approximately 1,000 Americans and 9,000 Filipinos died. The death march was formally designated by a military tribunal as a war crime.

    Philippine soldiers of the 14th Engineers, Philippine Scouts, United States Army Forces Far East (USAFFE), prepare a railroad bridge for destruction.
    Philippine soldiers of the 14th Engineers, Philippine Scouts, United States Army Forces Far East (USAFFE), prepare a railroad bridge for destruction.

    JUSTICE DELAYED IS JUSTICE DENIED

    President Franklin Roosevelt had promised the Filipino veterans GI benefits and the right to become US citizens to entice them to join the war. During WWII, millions of men and women of all races, from over 60 countries, served under the US flag. Despite the Japanese occupation, the Filipinos organized guerrillas in resistance and vowed to fight against the Japanese. By the end of that war, more than 260,000 individuals fought in the resistance movement. The bravery, heroism and dedication of the Filipino veterans played an integral part of leading Allied powers to victory.

    However, the US consciously broke its promise to the Filipino soldiers. After the war, President Harry Truman signed laws that stripped away many promises of benefits and citizenship for Filipino veterans. The GI benefits and US citizenship promised them were denied by the Rescission Act of 1946. It stated that the service of Filipinos “shall not be deemed to be or to have been service in the military or national forces of the US or any component thereof or any law of the US conferring rights, privileges or benefits.”

    Filipino veterans and their allies, including the Filipino Veterans Recognition and Education Project (FilVetREP), a nonpartisan, nonprofit, community-based, volunteer national initiative, had petitioned Congress to restore the promised benefits countless times over the years. Sen. Daniel Inouye from Hawai‘i submitted a Filipino Veteran’s Benefits bill every year for 18 years, but each year, Congress voted to deny those promised benefits.

    FILIPINO VETERANS FINALLY RECOGNIZED

    But the veterans never gave up. In 1990, Congress awarded citizenship to thousands of Filipino veterans and extended VA benefits to them. In 2009, Sen. Inouye’s bill finally passed, providing a one-time, lump sum payment to Filipino veterans. Sadly, these veterans were in their 80s or 90s by then or had passed on. Over 90 percent of the Filipino WWII veterans got nothing.

    Seventy-five years after the US entered the war, Filipino veterans were nationally recognized and awarded the Congressional Gold Medal.

    REPEALING THE RESCISSION ACT

    Despite the long-delayed recognition of the contributions of Filipino veterans, the Rescission Act of 1946 has never been repealed.

    As the FilVetREP organization (www.filvetrep.org) has stated, “It is time to repeal the Rescission Act… and correct a historic mistake upon thousands of Filipino WWII soldiers who gave their lives and limbs in a winning war in the Philippines over a brutal enemy; to restore upon them the honor, respect, and dignity they earned in war. They deserved nothing less.”

    THE MISSION CONTINUES

    MoveMeHawai‘i, a community education effort by the nonprofit Beta Beta Gamma Foundation, is planning an in-depth panel discussion providing more insights into this history. For dates and details about its community education plans, visit MoveMeHawaii.org. For more information about the Beta Beta Gamma Foundation, visit betabetagammafoundation.org.

    On July 26, 1941, President Franklin Roosevelt called upon all organized military forces of the Philippines into the service under the US Army Forces in the Far East. When Pearl Harbor and Manila were attacked on Dec. 7, 1941, these soldiers were brought into direct combat as the US officially entered World War II. During…

  • Getting Back on the Bike

    “I don’t remember how to ride a bike!” “I’m too scared to ride in Honolulu traffic!” “I don’t have a bicycle.” These are some of the reasons Hawai‘i seniors give for not riding a bike.

    The Hawaii Bicycling League (HBL) is here to help with the first two excuses. Honolulu-based HBL has recreational and educational programs for all ages. HBL’s Senior Cycling Program is back in action after a pandemic break. HBL is a great resource for seniors looking to get into biking for exercise and recreation. Activities for seniors include educational programs, fitness rides, group rides and even trike rides.

    The Hawaii Bicycling League’s Senior Cycling Program events on the Pearl Harbor Bike Path are extremely popular. PC: Roger Au
    The Hawaii Bicycling League’s Senior Cycling Program events on the Pearl Harbor Bike Path are extremely popular. PC: Roger Au

    For those who say they don’t remember how to ride, we say baloney! Scientists agree with the old expression, “just like riding a bike,” Once you learn to ride a bicycle, you never forget. According to Popular Science, cerebral coordination among several areas of the brain is so intense that the motions involved in cycling are never forgotten. It’s commonly referred to as “muscle memory.”

    For those who say they’re afraid to ride in urban traffic, HBL offers route planning, precautions and other tips for riding in Honolulu. HBL Adult Education Director Malia Harunaga says maps are available that show bike lanes and which streets are the best — and the worst — for bicyclists.

    Adult trikes make biking possible for people who don’t feel steady enough for a two-wheeler. HBL, through a grant from the City and County Honolulu, has purchased eight recumbent tricycles that are great for people with back problems or poor balance. Trike rides on the Pearl Harbor Bike Bath are scheduled throughout the year (visit www.hbl.org) and are broken down into rides of varying lengths and degrees of difficulty.

    If you don’t have a bike, O‘ahu’s Biki Bike bike-share program is a great alternative. HBL Executive Director Lori McCarney says she knows a man with Parkinson’s disease who started riding Biki Bikes. Now he says his Parkinson’s is much better and he’s able to do more things. For a Generations Magazine article about e-bikes, go to http://bit.ly/GM-E-Bikes.


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    “I don’t remember how to ride a bike!” “I’m too scared to ride in Honolulu traffic!” “I don’t have a bicycle.” These are some of the reasons Hawai‘i seniors give for not riding a bike. The Hawaii Bicycling League (HBL) is here to help with the first two excuses. Honolulu-based HBL has recreational and educational…

  • Splendors of Ikebana

    Hanakago, woven flower baskets used for ikebana, is the theme of this year’s Splendors of Ikebana, hosted by Ikebana International Honolulu Chapter 56 on Oct. 15 and 16. This popular  event will be held at the Ala Moana Hotel Ilima Room.

    Throughout its 50-year history, Ikebana International Honolulu Chapter 56 has adhered to its motto of spreading “Friendship Through Flowers.” From its inception, Chapter 56 has shared a mutual love of ikebana, the Japanese art of flower arranging, and Japanese culture through community service, educational activities and by organizing public floral exhibits.

    This ancient art began over 600 years ago during the teaching of Buddhism. Originated by Buddhist  priests, ikebana was initially practiced and developed among the nobility and families of the shogun. With time, the art form began to spread among samurai warriors who created  arrangements prior to entering battle. Ikebana spread to people of various classes during the Edo period between 1600 and 1868.

    Aspects present in ikebana are minimalism and asymmetry. Today, ikebanists from more than 60 countries belong to Ikebana International, which  was founded in 1956 by Ellen Gordon Allen, a US general’s wife. Her desire was to unite and create worldwide friendship through flowers. Her friend, Pearl Jensen, founded Chapter 56 in 1961.

    It is unclear how hanakago came to be. Some say they were first used in tea ceremony with the prevailing aesthetic derived from chabana practice and the 14th century influence of Chinese baskets. A legend describes how a Japanese noble riding in the country stopped at a humble  farmhouse and asked for tea and a flower arrangement. The poor man took an ordinary basket, picked some wild flowers and placed it on the bare earth. It was simple, humble, yet beautiful.

    Over 30 hanakago will be on display. Stop by and enjoy this ancient art. Admission is free.


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    Hanakago, woven flower baskets used for ikebana, is the theme of this year’s Splendors of Ikebana, hosted by Ikebana International Honolulu Chapter 56 on Oct. 15 and 16. This popular  event will be held at the Ala Moana Hotel Ilima Room.

  • Wait — Don’t Die Yet! – A Practical Guide

    Annette Kam’s free eBook is “a complete guide to all thing no one really wants to think about (but everyone needs to know!).” The guidebook was written last year, after the author endured a heart-wrenching ordeal.

    WAIT — Don’t Die Yet! is a step-by-step guide for adult children and spouses who are either  preparing for their own death or someone else’s. The guidebook covers the basics of getting affairs in order, while also teaching you about the mundane tasks necessary around the time of death.

    “A comprehensive tool that empowers rather than depresses you, this helpful approach allows you to deal with the practicalities of death while offering the hands-on guidance you need to make sure you have time to grieve,” says a review.

    In Part One, the three-part book reveals the author’s story as she dealt with unknowns regarding the passing of her beloved in-laws. Part Two shares lessons she learned along the way. Part Three is a comprehensive guidebook that includes not only basic requirements, but also all of the things that no one thinks about — all of the necessary tasks you need to complete before, during and after death.

    “There were over 110 things I wish I had known when I experienced it all and they are all incorporated in the guidebook,” says Annette.


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  • Five Proactive Conversations

    photo of daughter whispering some serious issue to her old motherDad passed away many years ago. Mom is 79 and very active. She golfs, plays mahjong, exercises and, of course, plays with her grandkids. Although we’re grateful Mom is healthy, we’re also  concerned because she now lives all alone in the large house we grew up in.

    My siblings and I have noticed some changes in Mom. We were caught off guard during Sunday dinner, when she asked us, “Should I move? I don’t really feel safe living alone. Where would be the best place for me to live?”

    We all just looked at each other. We all agreed that Mom’s safety and needs are priority No. 1. But what was the best answer to her question?

    Here are five topics to consider when having a proactive conversation with loved ones about a potential move:

    • Physical Needs. Will my current home fit my needs for the remainder of my life? Do I have too many stairs to climb? What home renovations may be needed to accommodate all the stages of care I may require? Who is equipped and trained to help when advanced healthcare is needed? If my home isn’t the best place for me, what are my options? If it is determined that aging in place at home will not be possible, a move will be the next likely step. Senior living options include retirement communities, continuing-care retirement communities, assisted living facilities, senior co-housing communities, senior home-sharing, nursing homes or other facilities, depending on the level of care needed now or expected in the future.
    • Cognitive/Mental. Am I in an environment that will encourage my thirst for knowledge and continued growth? Will I be able to stay at home if my memory declines? Will I even be able to make my own decisions later in life? How can I plan now, in case I can’t later?
    • Emotional/Social. Will I be able to spend time with my friends and loved ones?
    • Financial. What options exist for the budget we have to work with?
    • Family Dynamics. How can I leave a legacy for my family?

    Consider your answers to these questions and then begin your research. Knowing your choices can help make the process much easier.


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    Dad passed away many years ago. Mom is 79 and very active. She golfs, plays mahjong, exercises and, of course, plays with her grandkids. Although we’re grateful Mom is healthy, we’re also  concerned because she now lives all alone in the large house we grew up in.

  • Living with Diabetes: It’s a Family Affair

    Living with Diabetes: It’s a Family Affair

    Living With Diabetes, it's a family affairFamily plays a key role in the well-being of a loved one diagnosed with diabetes or prediabetes. While such a diagnosis might seem overwhelming, it is the small things we do daily that determine how the condition will progress. Family members can help and encourage their loved one by becoming part of their healthcare team.

    Twenty-five years ago, when Dante Carpenter’s wife, Olan, learned her husband had been  diagnosed with diabetes, she threw out every food in the house that might tempt him and worsen his condition. Her concerns and actions helped set Dante on the path to managing his diabetes through lifestyle changes.

    Dante has been actively involved with the American Diabetes Association Hawaii (ADA Hawaii) for many years. That relationship led to him twice being a conference speaker for Taking Control of Your Diabetes, a nonprofit that works to educate and motivate people with diabetes to take a more active role in their condition. It is a perfect fit with the ADA’s own goals. Dante and Olan’s daughter, Dr. Dee-Ann Carpenter, MD, associate professor at the John A. Burns School of Medicine, is also c committed to sharing knowledge that helps people manage their diabetes through the nonprofit University Health Partners of Hawai‘i. She also is the immediate past president of the ADA Hawaii Community Leadership Board.

    What is diabetes?

    The food and drinks that provide your body with energy contain varying amounts of glucose (sugar) that enter your bloodstream. Insulin, a hormone produced by the pancreas, helps this blood sugar get into your body’s cells, where it can be used for energy. In Type 1 diabetes (T1), which affects mainly children and young adults, the pancreas doesn’t make any insulin at all. In Type 2 diabetes (T2) and prediabetes — which together affect half of Hawai‘i’s adults — the glucose stays in your blood and doesn’t reach your cells. That happens because your body either doesn’t make enough insulin or doesn’t use it well.

    Diabetes and prediabetes have serious health consequences. Diabetic comas are a dramatic example, but the everyday effects of the disease include problems with eye and dental health, heart and kidney problems, and the loss of blood flow to infected or injured body tissue, which may result in gangrene and amputation.

    It’s all about choices

    One of the predictors determining who is at risk for diabetes is family medical history. You have absolutely no choice in that, of course, but how you choose to react to a diabetes diagnosis is a huge factor in how little or how much your own health will be affected by the disease.

    Dante’s mother had T2 diabetes, predisposing him to it. His brother, Monte, was also diagnosed with T2, but found it difficult to make the lifestyle changes necessary to control its effects.

    “He never shared his ailments,” Dante says, “He just kind of lived with it.”

    Because Monte lived on the mainland, Dee-Ann adds, her family didn’t find out how serious his health problems were until near the end of his life.

    “He had kidney disease and had been on dialysis,” she said. He had lost his vision because of  diabetes and had several amputations. Monte’s wife was a dialysis nurse and tried to steer him toward healthier choices. But Monte was “pa‘akikī — hardheaded,” Dante says, and wouldn’t give up the chocolates and other sugary treats he loved.

    Dialysis, eyesight loss and limb loss are common complications of diabetes, but typically don’t occur until 10 or 20 years down the road. By making healthy choices, Dante has staved off those  complications for 25 years plus the years prior to that when he had undiagnosed prediabetes. Because the early symptoms of diabetes can go unnoticed, the sooner you start making healthy choices, the better. That is why the ADA strongly emphasizes prevention.

    Find out your risk early

    The ADA offers a free Risk Test to all its corporate sponsors via QR codes on flyers that are posted in lunchrooms and also through outreach to the general public at, for example, community health centers and community events. The list on pg. 35 has a link to the online version of the test.

    “When you do the test, you receive a low or high score along with a list of resources available in your area,” says ADA Hawaii Executive Director Lorraine Leslie. “Being overweight or obese, inactivity, family history, ethnicity and age are a few of the risk factors.”

    Native Hawaiians, Pacific Islanders, Filipinos and others of Asian descent are particularly susceptible to developing diabetes. In response, some of ADA Hawaii’s resources have been translated into 13 languages as public service announcements.

    The questions asked in the test — which take only a minute to complete — are based on those risk factors. What is your age? Your gender? (Women are asked if they have had gestational diabetes — diabetes while pregnant.) Family history? Do you have high blood pressure? Are you physically active? What race or ethnicity best describes you? What is your body mass index (BMI), which is calculated by entering your height and weight?

    The ADA belongs to a coalition created by the National Council of Asian Pacific Islander Physicians (NCAPIP) to promote a healthcare initiative called “Screen at 23.” BMI is a measure of body fat. A BMI score of 25 is usually the point at which healthcare providers refer their patients for diabetes or prediabetes screening. Since Asian Americans are at high risk of having those conditions but tend to have less body fat, it is recommended that they be screened at a BMI of 23.

    It is easy to see, just from the Risk Test questions themselves, that there are areas in which we can all be proactive in preventing diabetes, even if we get a low score on the risk test. We can’t change our age, gender or ethnicity, but we can do something about avoiding high blood pressure, exercising regularly and keeping our weight down in order to lower our BMI. And, since “family history” includes the environmental and lifestyle factors that family members share, we can do something about those, too.

    Gain access to good nutrition

    Nanosecond by nanosecond, 24 hours a day, a multitude of different types of cells in your body are busy enabling all the functions you take for granted in day-to-day living. Without good, balanced nutrition, some bodily processes falter and may even shut down altogether.

    But we’re busy, too, right? Preparing healthy, nutritious meals can be time-consuming and, especially in Hawai‘i, the ingredients are often expensive. Dr. Dee-Ann notes the many fast food restaurants lining the road to Wai‘anae and the West Side of O‘ahu, which has a high proportion of Native Hawaiian residents.

    “You’ve just finished work at your second job,” she says. “You’re just going to get something quick and easy because you’re tired and it’s cheaper than going to MA‘O Farms to get the fresh food that you really want to feed your family. It’s hard… it’s really hard.”

    The ADA understands these economic pressures. In March, May and June 2021, they partnered with the Native Hawaiian healthcare organization Ke Ola Mamo to distribute 300 boxes of healthy foods to those who pre-registered, and met income and other requirements. The event was “definitely created out of a need when COVID hit,” explains Lorraine. They already have additional food distributions planned for the balance of the year.

    The food box distribution was also an opportunity for the ADA to create awareness regarding other resources that are available to them. As cars were waiting in line to receive boxes of food, ADA volunteers approached them holding signs saying “Take the test. Scan here.” Those who scanned the QR code and took the Risk Test received their scores instantly and those with high scores (over 5) were advised to take them to their healthcare provider for follow-up. Or they could discuss them

    Share your diabetes diagnosis

    Sharing your diabetes diagnosis with family, work associates and classmates is of vital importance, Lorraine explains, “because you never know when you’re going to have a sugar high or a sugar low.” Sharing also helps avoid any misunderstandings about why you are injecting yourself. As part of its advocacy role, ADA Hawaii worked with a young man to assist with reinstating his job. A co-worker had seen him self-injecting and reported it to their supervisor, who fired the young man on the spot because he thought he was a drug user. Had the young man told his employer about his medical needs after he was hired, the misunderstanding would not have occurred. And if the co-worker and supervisor had been more aware of what self-treatment for diabetes might entail, they might not have acted so hastily.

    The ADA has been advocating at a national level for a zero-dollar co-pay for insulin during the COVID-19 emergency and pushing state and federal efforts to ensure insulin is affordable and accessible. Since COVID, says Lorraine, the No. 1 reason for people calling ADA has been to find out about resources, especially for help with paying for medications and food. She recommends using Community Connection because it narrows the search down by ZIP Code and includes resources specific to your locality.

    Dr. Dee-Ann also suggests asking your healthcare provider for assistance in applying for free medications if the pharmaceutical company making your medicine provides that option and you qualify based on income. Some stores, such as Walmart, allow for lower costs of medication if you are uninsured. Medicare covers the cost of lab tests if your doctor determines you’re at risk, and some Medicare Advantage Plans participate in a senior savings plan that limits the cost of a month’s supply of insulin to $35 if you meet the criteria.

    For the children

    Family is at the heart of everything we are as individuals. It is a source of our values, our joys, our sorrows, and can be the wellspring of our motivation to do better — not just for ourselves, but for other family members and the wider community we live in.

    Your keiki can be an important part of your healthcare team. One of the major healthy living motivators for elders with diabetes is to continue sharing the joy of interacting with their grandchildren.

    A story Dante shares at Taking Control of Your Diabetes events is how his grandkids scold him when he slips up. When he does, they say “We’ll pull the plug on your wheelchair!” When he first got his diabetes diagnosis, Dante asked Olan why she was throwing out all his favorite foods, she replied: “Look, I am not going to push you in a wheelchair!” His mo‘opuna say that to him, too, when he strays. Dante then replies that he will get an electric one, then. That’s when they threaten to pull the plug…

    Dr. Dee-Ann adds that kūpuna can also model healthy lifestyle choices for their grandkids. About 17 percent of children and adolescents in the US are obese, exposing them to having an increased risk of developing T2 diabetes. So instead of giving them candies, she says, share an apple with them. Take them along when you go to exercise in the pool or go for a walk. Have a fun day with them at the beach.

    For children who have received a diabetes diagnosis, the ADA offers two virtual programs. Project Power, for kids ages 5 to 12, is a free at-home virtual after-school experience that takes place for an hour twice a week. It will begin again in October. The ADA’s virtual summer camp is held in June and July each year.

    Understanding & moderation

    “Understanding” is a word that has many meanings. As we each consider the role that diabetes might play or is currently playing in our lives, all of its nuances come into play. By taking the Risk Test, we come to understand what risk factors we need to address. Even if our score on the test is low, it is wise to take preventive measures. Make the effort to understand what your healthcare provider is asking of you in order to attain a healthy lifestyle. Pay attention to what is going on with your health on a daily basis, so that you can help your doctor understand how best to address your healthcare needs. Share your diabetes journey with loved ones so that you can come to an understanding — mutual agreement — about what changes need to be made in order to achieve your healthcare goals.

    But also be understanding — accepting of yourself and others. As a person with diabetes or prediabetes, don’t blame yourself if you occasionally have slip-ups. If you are caring for or know a person with diabetes or prediabetes, don’t blame them for their condition. Encourage and help them in any way you can. Be patient with yourself and others. Stress is one of the factors that can worsen the health of those with diabetes, so it’s best to come to terms with it instead of becoming anxious. As Lorraine says, “You can have diabetes and still have an active, healthy life. The key is moderation.”

    The work of ADA Hawaii is critical with over 442,000 adults in Hawaii affected by prediabetes or diabetes. ADA Hawaii provides access to a hotline, assistance acquiring insulin and many other resources.

    ADA RESOURCES
     Hotline 1-800-DIABETES (1-800-342-2383)
     COVID-19 Website
    www.diabetes.org/coronavirus
     Assistance Accessing Insulin
    www.insulinhelp.org
     Community Connection
    www.adacommunityconnection.org
     Diabetes Risk Test
    www.diabetes.org/risk-test
     Living with Type 2 Diabetes
    https://bit.ly/LivingWithType2
     Diabetes Food Hub
    www.diabetesfoodhub.org
     Diabetes Plate Method
    https://bit.ly/DiabetesPlateMethod
     Fitness
    https://www.diabetes.org/healthy-living/fitness
     Heart Disease and Stroke
    https://www.knowdiabetesbyheart.org
     Ask the Experts
    https://diabetes.org/ask-the-experts
     Project Power
    www.diabetes.org/community/project-power
     Diabetes Camp
    www.diabetes.org/community/camp
     Safe at School
    https://bit.ly/DiabetesRightsAtSchool
     Advocacy
    www.diabetes.org/advocacy

    OTHER RESOURCES
     Taking Control of Your Diabetes https://tcoyd.org
     Ke Ola Mamo www.keolamamo.org/ada
     Screen at 23 https://screenat23.org
     Medicare Diabetes Screening Coverage
    www.medicare.gov/coverage/diabetes-screenings
     Timeline of Insulin Discovery
    https://bit.ly/Insulin100TheDiscovery


    AMERICAN DIABETES ASSOCIATION
    800-342-2383 | www.diabetes.org
    P.O. Box 7023, Merrifield, VA 22116-7023
    Hawaii Local Office
    ADAHawaii@diabetes.org
    808-947-5979 | Facebook: @ADAHawaii

    Family plays a key role in the well-being of a loved one diagnosed with diabetes or prediabetes. While such a diagnosis might seem overwhelming, it is the small things we do daily that determine how the condition will progress. Family members can help and encourage their loved one by becoming part of their healthcare team.

  • Gerofit for Veterans

    Gerofit is a group-based exercise program for veterans aged 65 years and older. This program, meeting at the Veterans Affairs Pacific Islands Health Care Systems (VAPIHCS) in the Community Living Center (CLC), has transitioned to a telehealth-based exercise program offered two or three times weekly.

    Joe Kuroda (93) and Henry Lee (90) are active participants giving younger veterans aged 65 to 88 a purpose. In addition to being a former state Senator, Joe also served in World War II in the US Army, rising to the rank of colonel. Harold is a retired command sergeant major who served in three conflicts. Both lead by example, motivating those decades younger than them in exercising and the importance of a healthy lifestyle. To join Gerofit, you must be referred by a VA doctor.

    Gerofit has demonstrated improved health, mental, physical function and wellbeing for veterans.
    Gerofit has demonstrated improved health, mental, physical function and wellbeing for veterans.

    Classes are limited to seven per group, allowing the therapist/instructor to closely monitor the progress of each veteran. Currently there are six active groups. It was a challenge initially to convert to telehealth, but veterans eventually connected through iPads, tablets and personal computers and the program grew.

    When it is deemed safe to reopen the CLC, everyone is looking forward to returning for the comradery and potluck kaukau!


    VFW DEPARTMENT OF HAWAII (501(c) 3 nonprofit)
    438 Hobron Lane, Ste. 407, Honolulu, HI 96815
    808-946-7250 | adj@vfw-dept-hi.org
    www.vfw-dept-hi.org

    Gerofit is a group-based exercise program for veterans aged 65 years and older. This program, meeting at the Veterans Affairs Pacific Islands Health Care Systems in the Community Living Center, has transitioned to a telehealth-based exercise program offered two or three times weekly.

  • Easier Rider: Boomers Boost E-Bike Use

    Fueled by the pandemic, bicycling in general has experienced a boom. Biking is an ideal way to exercise while socially distancing.

    Electric bicycles (e-bikes), much like toilet paper, face masks and hand sanitizer, are another pandemic success story. As Americans emerged from lockdowns, most e-bike companies saw sales skyrocket. While people of all ages buy e-bikes as an eco-friendly, alternative means of transportation, seniors are the largest target market.

    E-bikes are revolutionizing cycling for senior adults, allowing us to ride longer, faster and with little or no pain. The low-impact exercise is simply easier on an aging body. With an e-bike, “over-the-hill”  boomers can get a little help getting over that hill without injuring muscles and joints.

    Recently retired Maui schoolteacher Sharon Heinzman loves her new e-bike. “Its all the fun of a bike ride without all of the work battling Upcountry’s hilly terrain.”
    Recently retired Maui schoolteacher Sharon Heinzman loves her new e-bike. “Its all the fun of a bike ride without all of the work battling Upcountry’s hilly terrain.”

    Health Benefits

    Cycling improves cardiovascular health while pumping more blood to the brain, contributing to improved mood. Medical researchers have even discovered that cycling helps alleviate the symptoms of Parkinson’s and Alzheimer’s diseases.

    Seniors who bike together also reap social benefits in the safety of the great outdoors. Seniors who live in bike-friendly communities can use e-bikes as regular means of transportation to do shopping and errands.

    While riding an e-bike may not be as intense a workout as riding a regular bike, users are much more likely to ride longer and more often, because the e-bike experience is more enjoyable.

    How an E-bike Works

    E-bikes are conventional bicycles with assistive superpowers. Riders use gears and pedals most of the time, just like with a traditional bike, but have the option to give themselves a boost, thanks to a rechargeable lithium-ion battery-powered motor. The small motor can be engaged to help you whiz up hills and battle head winds more easily.

    Buying an E-Bike

    Just like traditional bikes, different models of e-bikes are available depending on the rider’s needs. The most popular styles for seniors are cruiser bikes, trikes and recumbents. E-bikes are more complicated and expensive than conventional bicycles, so you need to do your research.

    There are three classes of e-bikes: Pedal-assist electric bikes provide assistance only when the rider is pedaling and only up to 20 mph. Throttle-assist e-bikes let you use the motor without pedaling, also up to 20 mph. Speed pedal-assist e-bikes are similar to pedal-assist bikes, except the motor will assist with speeds of up to 28 mph.

    The average e-bike weighs about 50-plus pounds. Prices vary widely, starting at about $1,000 and going as high as $12,000.

    Find a bike shop in your area so you can test-ride a few and begin rolling back the years!

    For information about Hawai‘i’s e-bike laws, visit http://bit.ly/HawaiiE-bikeLaws.

    E-bikes are revolutionizing cycling for senior adults, allowing us to ride longer, faster and with little or no pain. The low-impact exercise is simply easier on an aging body. With an e-bike, “over-the-hill”  boomers can get a little help getting over that hill without injuring muscles and joints.

  • Do You Have a REAL ID?

    In Hawai‘i, residents were asked to obtain a REAL ID-compliant Hawai‘i driver’s license or state identification card with the star in a gold circle marking by Oct. 1, 2020. But due to the COVID-19  pandemic, the Department of Homeland Security has extended the REAL ID enforcement deadline to Oct. 1, 2021.

    After Oct. 1, 2021, only federal-compliant REAL ID driver licenses and state ID cards will be accepted to get on domestic airline flights and to enter certain federal buildings and military bases. A US passport or military ID can be used as an alternate identification.

    When acquiring or renewing a driver license or state ID card, residents must indicate on the  application whether the card will be federal-compliant REAL ID. There is no additional fee for the star.

    Having a state ID is voluntary, not required, and typically used only by those who don’t have a driver license. You may hold a REAL ID-compliant driver license or state ID, not both.

    There is no rush to acquire one if your state ID is not nearing expiration. Valid Hawai‘i state ID cards are compliant with Department of Homeland Security standards until Oct. 1, 2021.

    A state ID costs $40 and is good for eight years. It can take six weeks for your permanent card.


    STATE ID ISSUING LOCATIONS FOR EACH COUNTY
    City/County of Honolulu: http://bit.ly/stateIDHonolulu
    Maui County: http://bit.ly/stateIDMauiCounty
    Hawai‘i County: http://bit.ly/stateIDHawaiiCounty
    Kaua‘i County: www.kauai.gov/DMV
    For more information: http://bit.ly/stateIDfaqs

    In Hawai‘i, residents were asked to obtain a REAL ID-compliant Hawai‘i driver’s license or state identification card with the star in a gold circle marking by Oct. 1, 2020. But due to the COVID-19  pandemic, the Department of Homeland Security has extended the REAL ID enforcement deadline to Oct. 1, 2021.

  • Chinese American Culture, Identity, Home

    Photo of Darien Hsu Gee
    Darien Hsu Gee

    What does it mean to be Chinese American?

    How are we reflected in the people we love and us in them?

    What obligation do we have to those who share our blood?

    How does a woman claim her life as her own?

    Where is my true home?

    Big Island bestselling novelist Darien Hsu Gee explores the answers to these questions through her poetic memoir and award-winning poetry, which debuted last fall in Allegiance and Other Small Histories.

    In Allegiance, a collection of micro-essays and prose poems, Darien explores her Chinese American identity and themes of belonging. Darien navigates the complexity of family dynamics in search of her identity.

    As a first-generation Chinese American, she portrays a feeling of spiritual homelessness as she charts her itinerant journey through her lyrical narrative of Asian diasporic experiences.

    “Gee is a marvelously direct writer of powerful autobiographical vignettes, each one telling in its quiet ferocity for personal revelation, each a momentary, lyric ascent above everyday confusion,” says fourth-generation Japanese American poet Garrett Hongo.

    Other Small Histories, a collection of poems, was selected as a Poetry Society of America 2019 Chapbook Fellowship winner by Patricia Smith, who called the book “a lush and lyrical chronicle of a walking back, a mesmerizing merge of research, vision and invention that gradually crafts a story of the women in her matriarchal line.” One critic wrote, “These luminous narratives explore complex familial relationships with spare, controlled prose. Gee is an eloquent writer whose voice resonates well past the last page.”

    Darien is the author of six novels, five of which have been translated into 11 languages. Three were written under the name Mia King.

    She holds a BA from Rice University and an MFA from the Rainier Writing Workshop at Pacific Lutheran University. She serves as series editor for the Hali‘a Aloha micro-memoir and hybrid publishing program. She and her family currently live in Waikōloa on the Big Island.


    DARIEN HSU GEE
    www.dariengee.com
    Other Small Histories: Poems: http://bit.ly/PoemsGee
    Allegiance: Micro Essays: http://bit.ly/AllegianceGee
    Hali‘a Aloha Series: http://bit.ly/HaliaAlohaGee

    What does it mean to be Chinese American? How are we reflected in the people we love and us in them? What obligation do we have to those who share our blood? How does a woman claim her life as her own? Where is my true home? Big Island bestselling novelist Darien Hsu Gee explores…

  • Ching Ming Festival Honors Ancestors

    When Douglas D.L. Chong thinks about celebrating Ching Ming as a child, he remembers waking up before dawn to the smells of home cooking. Sitting in traffic en route to the Mānoa Chinese Cemetery, a line of cars backs up all the way to University Avenue. Finally, around 7am, his family would reach their oldest ancestors’ grave sites, arriving there at the same time as about 40 other relatives.

    “There were literally thousands of thousands of Chinese; hundreds of families,” he recalls. Chong is the president of the Hawaii Chinese History Center. “You’d bring all the kids; all the grandchildren. Everybody had to go to these rituals. It was a big thing — the only time the whole clan would get together.”

    “This is where family history, family lore and connections are made,” he says, “but always invoking the spirits of those ancestors, asking them to bless the offspring.”

    A springtime ritual paying homage to family ancestors, the Ching Ming Festival is still celebrated in Hawai‘i each April. A month-long period during which families clean grave markers and pay respects to deceased parents, grandparents, great-grandparents (and so on), it begins with a community gathering. This year, due to the pandemic, the United Chinese Society hosted a private opening ceremony April 4 at the Tomb of the Grand Ancestor in Mānoa.

    Started in the 1850s, the Mānoa Chinese Cemetery sits on the ‘Akāka peak on the east side of former ag lands, surrounded on three sides by the Ko‘olau Mountains. ‘Akāka offers a clear view to the water — the Pacific Ocean — thus adhering to important concepts of feng shui, the practice of aligning oneself with nature.

    “You have to be facing the water in feng shui,” Chong said. “That water is the blood of the Earth dragon — the dragon of the Earth.”

    Opening ceremonies of Ching Ming this year included some of the usual trappings, but gatherings were smaller. Still, Chinese families will gather at the 10 Chinese cemeteries on O‘ahu, or the dozen cemeteries on Big Island and Maui.  Graves will be tidied and cleaned. Before cemetery caretakers were employed, Ching Ming was one of the few times in the year grass and foliage would be manicured, said Michelle Choy, a past president of the Chinese Chamber of Commerce who is active in the Chinese community. She typically attends five or so Ching Ming graveside ceremonies with family and friends; this year, she’ll likely attend only two.

    While each family has its own traditions, the most traditional graveside ceremony is a long one involving symbolic grave decorations and five traditional dishes presented along with drinks and incense. A whole roast pig is presented.

    Sometimes, paper objects — including spirit money — are burned so as to send an ancestor into the afterlife with all the necessary resources. Douglas and Michelle mentioned offering spirit money to ancestors who liked to go to Las Vegas.

    With its focus on filial piety, the ritual begins and ends with firecrackers and includes each relative bowing several times to the ancestor.

    Douglas feels satisfied and pleased watching his grandchildren and children perform Ching Ming rituals, which begin for his family at the site of his grandfather’s grave on a hillside in Mānoa. One of his grandsons is a student at Maryknoll, learning one of the five dialects of the Chinese language Douglas himself speaks.

    “It’s my hope once they are exposed to it, they internalize it to make it a part of themselves,” he said. “My main theme in all of this is not cultural identity. This isn’t my cultural identity; it’s not my culture. It’s my own true self-identity.”

    When Douglas D.L. Chong thinks about celebrating Ching Ming as a child, he remembers waking up before dawn to the smells of home cooking. Sitting in traffic en route to the Mānoa Chinese Cemetery, a line of cars backs up all the way to University Avenue. Finally, around 7am, his family would reach their oldest…