Tag: Annette Pang

  • Words, Tone, Compassion… Harmony

    By this time, even though the presidential election is behind us, many of us are still stinging from the words we heard as our candidates aired their differences.

    Whether we regard these exchanges as pleasurable or punishing, I recall one bright spot in the second debate, when a town hall attendee asked the candidates to “Name one positive thing that you respect about the other.”

    Those 10 words stopped their attacks, bringing smiles and nervous giggles. They served as a pattern interruption, which, if inserted skillfully, rescues those in heated debate, keeping them from spiraling out of control and possibly causing permanent damage to the relationship.

    Behind our own closed doors, it is possible to experience shocking stabs and wounds caused by our own family members when voicing different opinions about caring for loved ones.

    We must take responsibility for the words we use when we talk to each other. Words and tone make all the difference!

    Before we judge or lay blame on others, we can take action to become acquainted with quick tips and training. These small adjustments in our tone, attitude and point of view can interrupt harmful, toxic patterns in our conversations. Little tweaks can stop huge meltdowns to bring peace.

    If we learn to communicate with compassion, we can replace hostiiity with harmony.

    My “Quick Tips and Training” do wonders to defrost icebergs that fracture friendships and families. Find them at www.annettepang.com.

     


    LIFE COACH VILLAGE, LLC
    808-372-3478 | www.annettepang.com
    www.legendarywisdoms.com/senior-caregiver-coaching/

     

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    By this time, even though the presidential election is behind us, many of us are still stinging from the words we heard as our candidates aired their differences. Whether we regard these exchanges as pleasurable or punishing, I recall one bright spot in the second debate, when a town hall attendee asked the candidates to…

  • How to Chill Hot and Spicy…

    As a relationship coach, I find that one of the biggest problems for family caregivers is communication collapse, especially when talking with family members and parents who are aging, ill or dying. Seemingly simple topics, such as how to wash dishes or how to celebrate a birthday, can explode into a hot confrontation.

    As an imperfect human, I often feel impatient, too. What sets me apart from my clients is that I know how to patch things up and return to peace.

    What technique helps you keep your conversations authentic and relevant, but still kind? Here are things that don’t work: force, bullying, clamming up, stuffing your feelings or crying yourself to sleep.

    Trained coaches lead vision exercises so clients can picture themselves in career or home situations as high-level communicators and peacekeepers. In groups and private sessions, vision therapy yields “aha moments.” Caregivers can then approach their present situation differently, boost their inner game and learn to communicate peacefully. Accountability comes from and answering uncomfortable questions, such as, “What was my tone of voice” or “How did others react to my gestures?”

    The key to ending arguments is to accept imperfections and apply proven approaches and new mindsets. Rivalries don’t get resolved when the referee is frail. As mature adults, now is the time to appreciate siblings’ personalities. Family members can enjoy a sweet reunion during a loved one’s transition when they put aside the hot and spicy behaviors of their teenage years.

     


    LIFE COACH VILLAGE, LLC
    808-372-3478  |  www.annettepang.com
    www.legendarywisdoms.com/senior-caregiver-coaching/

    How to Chill Hot and Spicy by Annette Pang, Relationship Life Coach from the Oct-Nov 2016 issue of Generations Magazine, Hawai‘i’s Resource for Life

  • Team Huddle and Huckleberry Pie

    As family caregivers lovingly cater to their ill or dying elders, they could make three mistakes that might harm themselves and their family. Alone and exhausted, they cannot sleep. Stress leads to illness and 60 percent of caregivers end up in the hospital before their parents — some even predecease their parents.

    One of the quickest ways to lighten the load is to share the work. Form compassionate support teams by inviting others to join a common goal to carry out tasks, laugh, cry and groan together.

    Annette Pang’s “Magical Moments Workshops” have reached over 1,000 caregivers and found family teams with can-do attitudes quietly sacrificing for their elders. Do you consistently invite and enroll teammates to join you and roar in unison like a football team (chanting “strawberry shortcake, huckleberry pie,”) or are you all by your lonesome, working endless shifts?

    The Jackson, Carol and Dr. Cass Nakasone family —“Team Shirley”— deserves a trophy for courageously caring for their sister/aunt. How did they do it? They asked for help.

    Please join “Team Annette” to support the three-mile Alzheimer’s Association Walk on Sept. 3 at Magic Island. I am a wimp, but I will keep up with you so we can all cross the finish line together.

    Visit www.annettpang.com for more information and sign up today. Bring your elders — wheelchairs, rolling walkers, canes and all!

    And… it’s my 70th birthday — another great reason to cheer!

     


    LIFE COACH VILLAGE, LLC
    Annette is a Relationship Coach and founder of 
Life Coach Village, LLC.
    808-372-3478  |  www.annettepang.com

    Team Huddle and Huckleberry Pie by Annette Pang, Relationship Life Coach from the August-September 2016 issue of Generations Magazine, Hawai‘i’s Resource for Life

  • Sentimental Journals

    In 1945, Doris Day sang, “Gonna take a sentimental journey. Gonna set my heart at ease. Gonna make a sentimental journey, to renew old memories.” This popular song became an unofficial homecoming greeting for returning veterans at end of WWII. Couples probably slow-danced and swayed to it, cheek-to-cheek. Elders sing it today, recalling exactly where they were at the end of the war.

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    Do you know the songs your parents sang; their first kiss; snacks they loved to eat? Did their dreams come true or pass by? Have you heard their “pearls of wisdom” or “pet peeves?” Is it too late to ask?

    Legendary Wisdoms journals are the perfect way to drill deep into your elders’ memories and discover their bucket list, how they tick and their “forgitaboutits.” Visit www.annettepang.com and download a complimentary copy of Legendary Wisdoms, and help fill the pages with your elders’ memories for you and your family to savor for generations to come.

    Journaling is an excellent way to spark lively conversations and harvest stories your kūpuna have locked inside. The pages progress from trivia to introspection of precious memories. As a loved one, you can help by listening or by writing down their thoughts and memories; you will share amazing revelations, giggles, laughter, tears and enjoy closer connections. Don’t miss a richly rewarding and priceless “word and time” gift. Take a sentimental journey to renew memories with your loved one before it’s too late.

     


    LIFE COACH VILLAGE, LLC
    Annette Pang is a relationship coach for family caregivers and their elders.
    808-372-3478  |  www.annettepang.com

    Sentimental Journals by Annette Pang, Relationship Life Coach from the June-May 2016 issue of Generations Magazine, Hawai‘i’s Resource for Life

  • Our Contributors

    Generations Magazine calls upon Hawai‘i’s experts — from financial and legal advisors to
    health care professionals and noted chefs — to produce informative and meaningful resources
    for our local seniors and their families. We are grateful for their contributions.

    Generations Magazine -Our Contributors - Image 01MIGUEL GONZALEZ, President, Catalyst Factor Agency Public Relations, is a former newspaper
    reporter with the Los Angeles Times and Agence France-Presse (AFP) news agency
    in Paris. He is the founder of Catalyst Public Relations with offices in Los Angeles and
    Honolulu. Gonzalez also teaches Public Relations seminars designed to make PR services
    more available to small-business owners. He and his wife, Melanie, are the proud parents
    of Sebastien Omri, age 2.
    Generations Magazine -Our Contributors - Image 06SANTIAGO RIVERA, Chief Operating Officer, Interim Healthcare Honolulu, is an innovative
    senior executive with over 20 years of international experience in healthcare
    administration. His expertise supports the company’s continued growth and community
    commitment in O‘ahu. His goal is to grow Interim Healthcare Honolulu to meet the needs
    of a growing senior population while maintaining solid support for the highest quality in
    home care services and social integration.
    Generations Magazine -Our Contributors - Image 03JEFFREY SISEMOORE, JD is Director of Planned Giving and Major Gifts for the National
    Kidney Foundation of Hawai‘i (NKFH). Jeff brings a legal and financial background to
    NKFH and is devoted to helping people who wish to support the mission of NKFH by showing
    them how their charitable desires can be achieved while benefiting themselves and their
    families. Jeff is available for consultation at 589-5976. Register for a free eNewsletter and
    check out the wealth of information at www.kidneyhawaii.org.
    Generations Magazine -Our Contributors - Image 04STEPHEN B. YIM, JD, LLM is a sole practitioner tax attorney specializing in elder law and
    the areas of estate planning, and supplemental needs planning for families who have children
    with disabilities, charitable tax planning, estate and gift tax planning, estate administration,
    trusts and wills. He currently teaches M.B.A.and MAcc students at University of
    Hawaii and Hawaii Pacific University, and many public workshops, including Generations
    Magazine Aging in Place Workshop.
    Generations Magazine -Our Contributors - Image 05ALAN MATSUSHIMA, Enagic ™ Ionized Water Consultant, developed a keen interest in
    naturopathic health began 40 years ago, as a food and beverage director and restaurant
    owner. In his second career as a mortgage broker, Realtor and insurance agent, Alan
    raised his family, helped his community and traveled the world. Today, in eight countries,
    he pursues his life theme: “Help as many people as you can,” educating and advocating
    for the health benefits of ionized water.
    Generations Magazine -Our Contributors - Image 02MAILE KAWAMURA, Executive Director of the Arthritis Foundation Hawai‘i, is responsible
    for planning, implementing, managing and evaluating of all events and programs of the
    organization. She brings together corporate partners, medical and community leaders and
    community volunteers to raise funds and awareness for the 120 different forms of arthritis
    and related diseases that affect over 236,000 individuals in Hawai‘i

     

    And a continuing mahalo to our ever-present contributing partners (in alphabetical order):
    PAMELA CUNNINGHAM | MARTHA KHLOPIN | SCOTT MAKUAKANE | JULIE MOON |
    ANNETTE PANG | EILEEN PHILLIPS | TERRY SHINTANI | JEFFREY SISEMORE | SCOTT SPALLINA |
    JANE YAMAMOTO-BURIGSAY | MICHAEL W. YEE | STEPHEN YIM

    Generations Magazine calls upon Hawai‘i’s experts — from financial and legal advisors to health care professionals and noted chefs — to produce informative and meaningful resources for our local seniors and their families. We are grateful for their contributions. MIGUEL GONZALEZ, President, Catalyst Factor Agency Public Relations, is a former newspaper reporter with the Los…

  • Live and Die Without Regret

    No matter where we stand, when people close to us die, a moment of personal truth emerges based on our perspective.

    When we lose someone dear to us, we undergo a time of deep connection to those who are still living and to ourselves. We grieve. We rejoice. We replay special moments — laughing and crying together. We feel sadness and often regret. There is no right or wrong way to endure this transition.

    Thoughts from a Daughter of a Mom

    “When my mom died, it hit me… we sat going through jewelry and clothes in her closet… Each of us sisters shared bereavement, but each of us grieved differently. We expressed disappointment and sadness, summing up the personality of Mom in our own way, voicing incomplete messages like, “‘I wish I said,’ ‘I wish I did…”.

    To live and die without regret means to take this time to work backward — to reverse-engineer those memories step-by-step and fully express our thoughts; clear up any incomplete actions that we had hoped to carry out.

    We can’t put off tending to sadness or regret because each memory can become a constant replay: “I should have, could have, would have,” cluttering our minds. Feelings often plague a grieving survivor for many years — or for life.

    Take time today to reinvigorate your relationships and connect with your loved ones by being grateful and forgiving. Live rich and treasured lives together. You can do it with a little help.

     


    Life Coach Village, LLC
    2383 Beckwith St., Honolulu | 808-372-3478
    ap@annettepang.com | www.annettepang.com

    No matter where we stand, when people close to us die, a moment of personal truth emerges based on our perspective. When we lose someone dear to us, we undergo a time of deep connection to those who are still living and to ourselves. We grieve. We rejoice. We replay special moments — laughing and…