Category: Nov – Dec 2023

  • Dana is a Joy!

    DANA (pronounced Donna) is a Sanskrit word that is defined as selfless giving of time and energy; providing compassion and care without the desire for recognition or expression of appreciation. Dana is not someone’s name, or an acronym. Dana is an expression of love, compassion, faith, and caring.

    Project Dana began 34 years ago at Moiliili Hongwanji Mission, guided by the vision of two forward-thinking women, Shimeji Kanazawa and Rose Nakamura. Together they created an interfaith, volunteer caregivers program and called it Project Dana (the name was given by Dr. Ruth Tabrah, a well-known Buddhist scholar). Their program would consist of compassionate and trained volunteers offering social support to elders in the community.

    Examples of social supportive services offered by these dedicated volunteers are: friendly visits, respite, grocery shopping assistance, and transportation to essential visits such as doctor’s,  therapy, or dental appointments. Some sites on Maui and the Island of Hawai‘i offer senior activity days, when the elder is dropped off to enjoy the day while socializing, and breaking up the  isolation experienced while home alone.

    Friendly doctor examining health of patient at home. Happy smiling nurse consulting disabled patient about treatment. Nurse caring about elder handicap woman at home.The sites of Project Dana are led by dedicated site leaders, many of whom have been in that role for 20 years. Project Dana also offers programs to address specific community needs, coordinated by excellent, well trained, highly educated and knowledgeable people. The coordinators have many years of experience in their areas of expertise.

    Caring for the Caregiver

    This program focuses on services to family caregivers and soon-to-be caregivers. These services include public presentations, support groups, counseling and training. The goal of the program is to help alleviate the stress that comes with continuous caregiving responsibilities.

    Fall Prevention Assessment Program

    The goals of this program are to: increase awareness of fall prevention, create a safe home environment, enable elders to continue independently at home, assist in establishing quality of life for elders, and identify any potential injury risk factors.

    The expressions of appreciation below are priceless words that make Dana a Joy!

    Giving and Receiving

    “Mr. K’s impact on my elderly mother goes far beyond the tasks of bringing groceries, as important as that is. He listened to my mother and made her feel known and valued. Without his help and the support of Project Dana, she would have been unable to live in her own home during those last difficult years.”
    ~Grateful daughter of an elder

    “Being a Project Dana volunteer, I have discovered that those of us who “help” ultimately become recipients of invaluable life lessons. Thank you, Project Dana, for the opportunity to serve and learn.”
    ~Anonymous Project Dana volunteer


    PROJECT DANA (501(c) 3 nonprofit)
    902 University Ave., Honolulu, HI 96826
    808-945-3736 | info@projectdana.org
    projectdana.org

    DANA (pronounced Donna) is a Sanskrit word that is defined as selfless giving of time and energy; providing compassion and care without the desire for recognition or expression of appreciation. Dana is not someone’s name, or an acronym. Dana is an expression of love, compassion, faith, and caring.

  • How to Make Your Smile Merry & Bright

    Staying active and healthy during the holidays can be difficult with family gatherings and holiday sweets. While you try your best to avoid sugary treats, don’t forget to incorporate exercise into this cheerful season, because it could help you maintain a healthier smile!

    ✦ Exercise reduces inflammation and increases blood circulation throughout your body, including your gums and oral tissues, delivering more oxygen and nutrients.
    ✦ Exercise boosts your immune system and lowers your risk of diseases that affect your smile. Your body becomes stronger at fighting infections that can start in your mouth and spread to other parts of your body. Being active also lowers your risk of diabetes or heart disease, which are linked to gum disease and other oral health problems.
    ✦ Suffering from dry mouth due to medications? Exercise can help with increasing saliva production, helping to neutralize acids and protect tooth enamel. Drinking water after a workout keeps you hydrated and helps prevent dry mouth throughout the day.

    Visit your dentist at least twice a year, brush twice daily and floss daily to keep your smile merry and bright this holiday season.


    HAWAII DENTAL SERVICE (501(c) 4 nonprofit)
    Kahala Howser, Wellness & Events Manager
    khowser@hawaiidentalservice.com
    HawaiiDentalService.com

    Staying active and healthy during the holidays can be difficult with family gatherings and holiday sweets. While you try your best to avoid sugary treats, don’t forget to incorporate exercise into this cheerful season, because it could help you maintain a healthier smile!

  • How to Age Gracefully, Inside and Out

    My grandma once told me, “getting old is not for sissies!” As we get older, we may wonder how to age as well as possible. Here are some simple tips for aging gracefully as our bodies change.

    ✦ Avoid constipation. Eat a high fiber diet, fruits, and vegetables.
    ✦ Hydrate with at least 6–8 cups of water daily. Hydrating may also help flush the bladder and reduce urine infections.
    ✦ Stay active and exercise. Walk 15–20 minutes three or four times each week, stretch, or do physical therapy to help reduce aches and pains. Swimming or using a stationary bike is better for people with knee pain.
    ✦ Exercise your mind. Puzzles (jigsaw, crossword, or word searches), reading and interacting with others are great for brain health.
    ✦ Address vision and hearing problems to keep you interactive with your friends and family.
    ✦ Moisturize. As skin becomes dryer and thinner, use an unscented moisturizer and sunscreen daily.
    ✦ Be safe: Use a walker or cane when needed to avoid falling, know when to retire from driving, and when to accept help.
    ✦ Most of all, find ways to have fun. My grandma was “oshare” (stylish) her entire life, even blinging out her cane when she needed one!


    KUAKINI PRIMARY CARE CLINIC
    405 N. Kuakini St., #1009, Honolulu, HI 96817
    808-547-9105 | kuakini.org

    My grandma once told me, “getting old is not for sissies!” As we get older, we may wonder how to age as well as possible. Here are some simple tips for aging gracefully as our bodies change.

  • Champions at Heart

    Champions at Heart

    Chances are that you’ve heard of Dave Shoji and Vince Goo, two of Hawai‘i’s most beloved coaches. Known far and wide for their stellar coaching careers at the University of Hawai‘i at Mānoa (UHM), these individuals boast hundreds of wins and have earned the titles of the winningest coaches for their respective programs — for Shoji, volleyball, and for Goo, basketball. Today, the coaches stay active in their respective sports, along with playing rounds of golf, surfing and advocating for Hawai‘i’s kūpuna through their work with Hawaii SHIP (State Health Insurance Assistance Program).

    For Coach Goo, the most vivid memories of his coaching career — “my most happiest times” — are not the victories or the championship wins. He and his assistant coaches put a lot of work into the academics for their players, encouraging them to graduate. In terms of their grade point average (GPA), the Rainbow Wahine women’s basketball program was the top team out of all the UH sports for a number of years. Although Vince Goo is no longer on the court, his dedication to community and to guiding, not only the youth but all those around him, still shines through in what he does today.

    Coach Shoji retired in 2017, after a 42-year career that included both highs and lows. From the time he first became their coach, Dave Shoji has been avidly supportive of the Rainbow Wahine women’s volleyball team and is a strong advocate for other women’s athletics programs. He was the first fulltime coach of any women’s program at UH, and his hard work helped “put them on the map.” Dave still dedicates himself wholly to guiding and helping others, most recently through his community service and encouragement of healthy living for kūpuna. He puts his all into everything he’s involved with, rooting for everyone around him.

    VINCENT GOO

    Known by many here as simply “Coach Goo,” Vincent Goo had a 20-year coaching career with UH Mānoa’s Rainbow Wahine basketball team, during which he earned the title of winningest coach in the program’s history. Coach Goo retired in 2004, but continues to care for and mentor the people of Hawai‘i through his dedication to the community in various acts of service.

    Born on O‘ahu in 1947, Vince was raised here and attended Kalani High, moving on to Southern Oregon State University (SOSU), where he received his degree in physical education in pursuit of becoming a PE teacher. “That was my best class. And the easiest class!” After graduating from SOSU with a bachelor’s in physical ed, Vince came back to Hawai‘i to teach at Castle High School in 1969, and he would continue on at Castle for seven years before teaching at Kaiser High School for another eight.

    Vince’s introduction to a legendary coaching career seemed small: He started as a part-time assistant at UHM, where he met Bill Nepfel, another well-known figure in Hawai‘i sports, who was the women’s basketball coach at the time. The two quickly became friends, regularly playing pick-up ball together and hanging out. Several weeks later, Vince got the call.

    “You’re gonna like it!”

    “So, he calls me out of the blue one day and he goes, ‘Hey, I want you to be my assistant coach.’ I said, ‘Bill, what are you doing?’ That year, they went to the Final Four. I’d never seen the UH women’s team play — I was just coaching boys’ basketball. He said, ‘Oh, you’re gonna like it, you’re gonna like it! Come up to the gym, Gym 2, we play pick-up every day.’ So, I went up there and I was really impressed — they were shooting jump shots from free throws. Bill only had one position aside from himself, and that was part-time assistant coach and he would have to get someone who had a full-time job. I was still teaching at Kaiser, so when he offered me the position, I said, ‘Ah, OK, I’ll give it a try.’ I jumped in with him and I was there for three years. I was lucky I got the job here, at the University of Hawai‘i. Everything kind of fell into place.”

    Coach Goo became the winningest coach in program history, boasting a 334–116 win rate. He was assistant coach for three years and head coach for 17, totaling a 20-year career with the Rainbow Wahine. For Goo, however, it was always more than just basketball. The renowned coach had three rules his players had to follow, and they’re as simple as ABC: Academics, Basketball, and  citizenship. Putting academics first was no coincidence. Coach Goo has pride in knowing that all but one of his players were able to graduate with their degree.

    Wins on and off the court

    “I thought, when I took over at UH, ‘How can we be the best in something? We’re not gonna win every game, we’re not gonna make every free throw. We’re gonna lose games, we’re gonna miss free
    throws. But what if we graduate everybody?’ So, that’s what we set out to do. We ended up being the top GPA team out of all the sports for a number of years. I think we set the bar for all the other teams. All our athletes maintained a 3.0 or better, so that was a pretty good accomplishment.”

    Goo’s most memorable moments in his career as Rainbow Wahine basketball coach have little to do with the games themselves. They relate to something as simple as his ABC rules: Commencement Day. Specifically, presenting lei to the graduating student-athletes. “We had a tradition that, when a player graduated, we would take their photograph — their mugshot, just in their jersey — and put it up on my office wall. It was only when they graduated that they’d come and put their picture up there. It never had anything but their jersey number, the years that they played, and their major. It never had anything else about basketball, about how many points, or how many rebounds, or whatever.”

    Coach Goo retired in 2004, but even today, he still involves himself with sports via a community-driven approach. “Well, I don’t go to a lot of the games, but I support the teams and I’ll call a coach and give some words of encouragement. I try to keep up with the sports and, obviously, women’s basketball. I’ll give them a shout on the voicemail after games — if they played well.” With a laugh, he adds, “If they didn’t, I try not to say it on TV.” Though he doesn’t attend all sports games, he never misses a Rainbow Wahine basketball game. Goo co-hosts game-time interviews and analyses with UHM radio and TV play-by-play announcer Scott Robbs and Nani Cockett, who played for Coach Goo at UHM. At one of the games he announced for, Scott asked Vince how many kids he had. “I said, ‘Four.’ And Nani says, ‘Oh, don’t worry. Coach didn’t raise them. Mrs. Goo did. He was too busy trying to raise us.’”

    It’s obvious that Goo enjoys so many aspects of this activity — from the co-hosting, the immersion, and, overall, the fun. Goo carries his passion for basketball and teaching with him today.

    Work and play in retirement

    Aside from still being engaged with the sports scene, Vince cherishes newfound hobbies and passions coming up in his retirement. His hobbies include: “Sweeping and mopping the house. But don’t talk to my wife, ’cause she’ll deny that! I play a lot of golf. And people are always asking me, ‘Hey, how’s retirement?’ I tell them it gets better every week. ‘Don’t you lose track of the days?’ No, you just wake up in the morning, go get your paper on the driveway — if the paper is thick, you know it’s Sunday.” And “Coach Goo” continues to advise and educate his community. He is especially proud of the work he and “Coach Shoji” participate in with Hawaii SHIP.

    “With Dave and Jim Leahey, we did three commercials together. Since Jim passed, Dave and I have done two commercials. SHIP is a volunteer group and they’re wonderful, really wonderful. One day, I guess the commercial was on, and my grandson comes running downstairs, going, ‘Hawaii SHIP today!’ I happened to be sitting there, thinking, ‘What am I gonna do about this bill I got?’ Wait a minute! Maybe I should call them. I called them the next day and they called back 20 minutes later with information. That was terrific! I’ve called them a few times since. If you call Medicare, you’ll get all the prompts, you know, call this number, press 1, press 2, press 3, and even then, your category never comes up, right? So, who do you talk to? It’s tough.”

    As for why he and his friends chose to work with Hawaii SHIP, Vince says, “They called us. They thought, ‘Hey, let’s get these old fuddy duddies, all three guys are retired.’ We might have a good connection with older people. From what I hear, we hit it off pretty good.”

    Coach Goo recalls with fondness his friends, family, and the players he devoted many years of his life to. While proud of his achievements, he takes every opportunity to give credit to the community that took care of him and that he cares for. This legacy of care and mentorship, that he continues to hone, is something everyone can aspire to, no matter their age.

    Shoji on Goo: We grew up fairly close to each other and were friends in grade school. So, we go way back. We went separate ways for a while, but then reunited at UH: two local boys who grew up in the sports world, ended up coaching at a major college in major sports. I really respected Vince as a coach, and we both were proud of where we came from and how we got the programs to be respectable.

    David Shoji

    Coach David Shoji is the now-retired coach of the UH Rainbow Wahine volleyball team. His incredible star-studded career spanned 42 years wherein he earned the title of the winningest coach in the program’s history. Today, Dave can be found playing some rounds on the golf course, catching waves and serving his community in several ways.

    Dave Shoji was born in California in 1946, moving to Hawai‘i at the age of three, where his father, Kobe Shoji became a well-known expert in sugar cane production. Though he was born in the Golden State, Shoji’s upbringing was embedded in aloha. He attended public school here until the ninth grade, then the family moved back to Southern California when his father had to go overseas for work. Dave graduated from Upland High School, balancing academics with participation in three sports — baseball, football, and basketball.

    The University of California at Santa Barbara (UCSB) is where the legendary coach first learned how to play volleyball. A naturally gifted athlete, Shoji earned All-American honors as a volleyball player in 1968 and ’69 while completing a degree in physical education. After graduation, he joined the army, serving for two years before returning to Hawai‘i to further his education at UHM in hopes of becoming a physical education instructor.

    He had no clue that this decision would change his — and countless others’ — life forever: “I was just trying to be a teacher. I was hired to coach the UH women’s volleyball team — it was a parttime job. It wasn’t really something I intended to do for a long time. It was just kind of a job to keep me financially going and then it turned out to be, after a few years, a full-time job. I happened to stay for 42 years!”

    From the ground up

    Coach Shoji would go on to cultivate an iconic program in Hawai‘i sports and a legendary coaching career: over 1,000 wins, multiple national titles, 22 combined awards of conference and region Coach of the Year and much more. He has been named to the list of All-Time Great Coaches by USA Volleyball and the Hawaii Sports Hall of Fame. Like Goo, it was always more than just the wins for Coach Shoji. “Back when we started coaching, women’s athletics were just an afterthought for the University of Hawai‘i. It wasn’t like it is today; it was pretty spartan. We didn’t have much, but we love the sport. Both Vince and I love to coach and love the sport, so that’s why we did it — out of love for the sport.”

    He looks back on these memories fondly. The most fulfilling part of coaching and mentoring his players for so many years is recounted with as much reverence and passion today as he felt when the events occurred. “There are so many highlights, it’s hard to pick one. But I think the first big event was winning the national championship in 1979, where we had been close — we’d been runner up and third place up until then — and in 1979, we finally won the national championship.” That win “kind of put us on the map, so to speak, and people here in the state started to identify with us. We would fill Klum Gym back in the day and they started to televise our matches which made us even more popular. So, that part was exciting — to be on the ground floor, on television, and people were actually coming to see us play. When the arena opened in 1994, we started attracting real big crowds of eight to ten thousand. Our program turned out to be a money-making sport for UH, which was pretty rare in college athletics — that a women’s program would actually make money for their school. That was exciting to be around.”

    Preserving family, health, and community

    David Shoji’s reputation precedes him. When people hear his name, few wouldn’t recognize the legendary Rainbow Wahine volleyball coach. Though Dave is no longer on the court, his life now is still just as colorful and busy. He manages to stay active not only in terms of his physical health and community, but he also is very much engaged in his family life.

    “My wife and I, we both love sports. Our two boys played volleyball in high school here locally and went on to play collegiately at Stanford. They won a national championship at Stanford, which was really exciting for everybody. They went on to play professionally, and both sons made the 2016 and 2020 Olympic teams for the USA. Kawika, the older one, has just retired from professional  volleyball and Erik, the younger son, is still playing. Our daughter, Cobey, married a football coach — he coaches at Alabama — so a lot of our life now is just following their teams. We’re also into being grandfather and grandmother! We have four and one on the way.”

    Dave enjoys the relaxed pace of retirement, but he’s far from idle. “I’ve always golfed, so that’s still in the picture, but I took up surfing later in life. I’m probably surfing two or three times a week. The other things that old guys do are, you know, we garden, we cook, we babysit the grandkids. I still am a little active in coaching. I do some private small-group lessons, so I stay connected. We still go to a lot of UH sporting events. Cheering on the men and women’s teams at UH is still a big part of our lives. And we travel a lot, mainly to see games.”

    Here at home, the attention and passion Dave invests in his community includes advocating a balanced lifestyle for kūpuna, urging them to stay active and take care of their health. “Whenever I have a chance, I just like to encourage our generation to be healthy and stay active and exercise and eat well. I try to lead by example. When people see that I can still surf, and I’m golfing, and I’m exercising, maybe that will help get them off the couch.”

    For the sake of helping others

    Most of us have probably seen the Hawaii SHIP public service announcements (PSAs) while watching college sports on OC16. Dave sees it as a way to mentor a new age group: those in need of help navigating Medicare. “Vince mentioned he didn’t know a lot about what’s available and what help is out there, but I didn’t understand all of it either until I started  taking these public service ads. I just think people like us, we gotta be kind of held by the hand now that almost everything is computerized and online. For some of us, it’s not easy. We didn’t grow up in this era,
    so that’s one way that Vince and I have been able to help people.”

    The two coaches became spokespeople chosen by Hawaii SHIP because of their reputations and familiar faces. “They had a very appealing proposition for Vince and I and Jim Leahey. We were all friends, we were all about the same age, and that made it attractive for us. Vince is probably the most humorous person I know, and they wanted something light and just pleasant to watch, not too serious.” Another part of the appeal was that “we were gonna be out at the stadium, or we were gonna be in the arena, or at some form of athletics we were known for.”

    Goo on Shoji: He’s a year older than me, but that’s because he’s born in December and I’m January, so for a month, I can say, “OK, he’s older than me.” He can’t wait till that month goes by. He goes, “How old are you now?” Dave’s a cornerstone of our athletic department as far as wins are concerned, highlights, national championships. But, you know, he’s kind of on the serious side, yeah?

    Shining a light for SHIP

    Both Dave Shoji and Vince Goo have remained active in terms of their physical health and their community for most of their lives. Today, the now-retired coaches can still be found participating in their respective sports, coaching private lessons or commentating for in-game analyses. Both of them treasure their “local boys” roots, as Dave puts it. He expresses his pride in growing up here, which is something both Dave and Vince share. Among other things, Dave and Vince also advocate for helping “their generation,” our kūpuna.

    While they stress the importance of maintaining physical health as individuals age, they also encourage older folks to know what benefits they are eligible for and acknowledge the difficulties that come with navigating Medicare — especially for those who are not particularly tech-savvy. In our rapidly technologically advancing society, more help than ever is needed for those who face challenges in traversing websites, phone call prompts and more.

    Medicare is one of multiple services where access to services can be hindered by complicated tech. Dave and Vince’s work with Hawaii SHIP has become an integral part of their activities in retirement, and the fun PSAs have proven to be quite a hit. “People go, ‘Oh, yeah, we saw your commercial!’ We had one that was animated but had our voices, and friends of mine went, ‘Oh, that’s the one you look best in,’” says Vince with a laugh. “But it has recognition, yeah? So, it’s serving its purpose.”

    A different kind of game plan

    In 2019, Lani Sakamoto, the supervisor for Hawaii SHIP, proposed to connect with Goo, Shoji, and Jim Leahey because all three individuals were Medicare beneficiaries by then. Sakamoto thought that a collaboration between Hawaii SHIP and the three men would prove incredibly valuable. Not only were they Medicare beneficiaries and utilizing the many services Hawaii SHIP provides, but the public’s recognition of three legends in the realm of UH sports would likely garner an overwhelmingly positive response.

    Sakamoto then proposed the idea for some PSAs to the Spectrum cable company and to Kernel, a production company that had contact with the coaches because of the Spectrum’s channel, OC16.

    Kernel took a low-key approach, “cobbling up” some scripts to guide the performance, but also letting the three friends act spontaneously and “play around” on camera. The key to each PSA’s appeal is how it conveys their natural sense of fun, while still addressing something important for audiences to know. Along with other helpful videos in several languages, the dynamic duo’s Spectrum PSAs can be viewed on the Hawaii SHIP YouTube channel here: youtube.com/@hawaiiship3802/videos

    Braving unknown territory can be a daunting endeavor. In navigating the world of Medicare, the waters can prove to be especially rough and challenging. It also doesn’t help that there are some people and companies that would gladly take advantage of Medicare beneficiaries in need of healthcare services. With the right crew at your disposal, navigating Medicare can be smooth sailing — Hawaii SHIP (State Health Insurance Assistance Program) is here to guide you.

    Hawaii SHIP is federally funded by the Administration for Community Living (ACL) and administered by the State Department of Health, Executive Office on Aging (EOA). Its mission is to empower, educate and assist Medicare-eligible individuals, their families, caregivers and soon-to-be retirees. Its volunteer-based program uses objective outreach, counseling and training to help those on Medicare make informed health insurance decisions that optimize their access to care and benefits.

    Hawai‘i’s Medicare population is approaching 300,000, and Hawaii SHIP has counseled 2,765 clients and assisted folks numbering 6,465 through their outreach presentations and fairs.

    For those who have difficulties with mobility or have vision impairment, their website also offers virtual presentations and resources in the form of podcasts/CDs as well as the option to request their resources in Braille.

    Once you contact Hawaii SHIP, you will be assigned to a certified volunteer counselor who will provide one-on-one guidance tailored to your specific situation and needs. These counselors help with understanding healthcare choices, matters of enrollment, plan comparisons, coverage and costs, prescriptions, troubleshooting billing issues, submitting appeals and referral to other possible resources. With your permission, Hawaii SHIP works directly with Medicare to resolve any issues on your behalf. Their SHIPMates are local community members who have undergone screening, training, and certification as Medicare experts. Hawaii SHIP has more than 80 SHIPMates. Recruitment for volunteers begins after Medicare’s Open Enrollment Period closes on Dec. 7.

    The benefits of volunteering with Hawaii SHIP include the joy derived from helping Medicare beneficiaries; learning about local support, services and resources; designing your own schedule and being able to choose a role suitable for you:

    Presenters educate community and employer groups about Medicare and other health plan options.
    Counselors provide assistance to beneficiaries, their families, caregivers and soon-to-be retirees.
    Exhibitors distribute educational materials at fairs and event booths.
    Administrative helpers support SHIP staff with various clerical duties such as data entry, making informational packets and translating materials into other languages.
    Information distributors transport brochures and newsletters about Hawaii SHIP and Medicare to sites where Medicare-eligible individuals gather (libraries, nonprofit agencies, community centers)

    To become a SHIPMate or request help in your own journey, look to the lighthouse, a beacon in the dark — contact Hawaii SHIP today!


    HAWAII SHIP
    Free, local, one-on-one Medicare counseling is provided by the Hawai‘i State Health Insurance Assistance Program.
    250 South Hotel St., Ste. 406, Honolulu, HI 96813
    Oahu: 808-586-7299 | Toll free: 888-875-9229
    hawaiiship.org/services | hawaiiship.org/volunteer

    Chances are that you’ve heard of Dave Shoji and Vince Goo, two of Hawai‘i’s most beloved coaches. Known far and wide for their stellar coaching careers at the University of Hawai‘i at Mānoa (UHM), these individuals boast hundreds of wins and have earned the titles of the winningest coaches for their respective programs — for…

  • Becoming the Reason Someone Smiles

    Volunteering brings fun, joy and a sense of purpose into your life. It has certainly made my retirement more meaningful and enjoyable! The skills I learned in my working life are put to good use and are the foundation of the WIN-WIN relationships forged between me and those in need of assistance.

    In retirement, one gift we can freely give is the gift of time spent sharing our skills, talents and experiences. I volunteer for RSVP (Retired and Senior Volunteer Program) as an Americorps Senior. When I started, I didn’t even begin to imagine what benefits I would gain from this wonderful partnership.

    It is such a blessing to be part of a program that helps the community thrive in many different ways — from supporting healthy and independent living for seniors to supporting keiki in developing school readiness, and promoting literacy. Being reconnected with the community and making a difference is the perfect antidote to any feelings of isolation or lack of purpose.

    Best of all, my gift of time can change a life and be the reason someone smiles!


    ADRC HAWAI‘I
    City & County of Honolulu Elderly Affairs Division
    925 Dillingham Blvd., Ste. 200, Honolulu, HI 96817
    808-768-7700 | elderlyaffairs.com
    RSVP Program (an AmeriCorps Seniors program)
    808-768-7778 | elderlyaffairs.com/site/460/rsvp.aspx

    Volunteering brings fun, joy and a sense of purpose into your life. It has certainly made my retirement more meaningful and enjoyable! The skills I learned in my working life are put to good use and are the foundation of the WIN-WIN relationships forged between me and those in need of assistance.

  • Be Prepared and at Ease for the Holidays

    Charming sad old woman is sitting on sofaGrief is a natural response to a loss, change, transition, or death. Grief affects everyone uniquely. It could be emotionally, mentally, physically, intellectually, and/or spiritually. As the 2023 holidays approach, take time to self-care with positive activities. Examples are reading uplifting stories and poems, journaling, stretching, meditating, connecting with people, appreciating nature walks, etc. Find your source of strength and peace each day. Be prepared for the upcoming holidays.

    Daily Self–Care for December and New Year’s Day

    Breathe deeply. Be open. Believe good things will happen.
    Evoke encouraging words. Evolve as you take the first steps forward.
    Prepare for the holidays by planning what you are willing to do. Be patient with yourself.
    Preview and reflect on life’s lessons.
    Energize through exercise. Every effort counts.
    Pause. Peace comes from within.
    Attitude matters. Aspire to inspire.
    Remember to count your blessings.
    Eat nutritiously. Embrace a healthy lifestyle.
    Dedicate time to be kind to yourself daily.
    Free yourself from negative thoughts. Forgive.
    Options and opportunities are all around us.
    Random acts of kindness uplift your spirit.
    Take care and rest. Take some time off.
    Humor helps. Smile, even if you don’t want to.
    Engage in inspirational self-care activities. Embrace the ones you enjoy doing.
    Understand moments can be tough. Use the time to hold your heart.
    Promote wellness. Pamper yourself.
    Choose to be calm and courageous. Celebrate the small steps.
    Observe. Optimism opens new doors.
    Take time for yourself. Move with music.
    integrate new experiences. Invite change.
    Navigate your path. Notice nature’s beauty.
    Grieve, yet greet today with gratefulness.
    Hope for the best. Have a blessed day.
    Open your heart to new beginnings.
    Laughter is good for you. Let it go.
    Invite positive thoughts.
    Develop new traditions & rituals. Dance daily!
    Allow ALOHA in your life. Acknowledge both the pain and joy in the grief journey.
    You are important. Yes, you will be fine.
    Seek strength from within. Speak with sincere gratitude in the NEW YEAR.


    BEREAVEMENT NETWORK OF HAWAI‘I — facilitated by KOKUA MAU (501(c) 3 nonprofit)
    808-585-9977 | kokuamau.org | kokuamau.org/grief-and-bereavement
    kokuamau.org/wp-content/uploads/Bereavement-network-of-Hawaii.pdf

    Grief is a natural response to a loss, change, transition, or death. Grief affects everyone uniquely. It could be emotionally, mentally, physically, intellectually, and/or spiritually. As the 2023 holidays approach, take time to self-care with positive activities. Examples are reading uplifting stories and poems, journaling, stretching, meditating, connecting with people, appreciating nature walks, etc. Find…

  • My Reflections on Caregiving

    Aloha! When we hear the words “kūpuna care,” it can bring forth many thoughts, perhaps of taking care of a parent, grandparent, neighbor or friend. For me, “kūpuna care” has also meant a career of three decades working in senior care communities in California and Hawai‘i. As a licensed administrator, I’ve been there in the continuum of care: independent living, assisted living, memory care and skilled nursing. I strived, with other staff members, to provide the highest quality of care and services.

    Family caregiving

    Like many baby boomers, I have also been a family caregiver. From Mom to an uncle, it has been a journey of applying working knowledge of quality of care, regulations, psycho-social needs, Alzheimer’s disease and other dementia types, finding caregivers for home care and end-of-life care, and discovering the true grit of a team of first-time family caregivers.

    As I age, and kūpuna in my family age, we share with each other our inter-generational experiences of growing up in Hawai‘i nei, working for a living and raising a family. And, as we retire into the sunset, we reflect on the contributions our ancestors made so we could, hopefully, have a better life.

    Elderly woman falling down at home after heart attack.Showing love by being present

    In the year 1987, at the first skilled nursing facility I worked at in Sacramento, CA, I met two sisters who drove from the Bay Area to Sacramento to see their issei mother every weekend. Their mother was in advanced dementia, but just their presence showed undeniable love for their mom. I observed them talking to her with reminiscences of childhood days, raising families, work, then retirement.

    In Hawai‘i we simply “talk story.” Talking story is such a relaxing way of communicating. Talking story reflects the “hanabata days” of being a “runny-nosed” kid. Remember when…? What  neighborhood…? What high school…? You know so-and-so…? All these are ways of sharing. Even though a senior may repeat these stories, it is aloha to listen and share with them, bringing love and comfort. This is just one aspect of senior care and, for me, my most treasured memory as a caregiver of Mom and Uncle.


    Feel free to contact Calvin with questions about caregiving.
    Calvin Hara | 916-812-5524 | cmhara@comcast.net

    Aloha! When we hear the words “kūpuna care,” it can bring forth many thoughts, perhaps of taking care of a parent, grandparent, neighbor or friend. For me, “kūpuna care” has also meant a career of three decades working in senior care communities in California and Hawai‘i. As a licensed administrator, I’ve been there in the…

  • Grandma’s Butter Crunch Jello Cream Cake

    My fondest memories of my late grandma, Shirley Ihara, are of watching her cook and bake in the kitchen. During the holidays, she would make her Butter Crunch Jello Cream Cake and it was one of my favorites. She actually taught me this recipe when I was a child, but I really didn’t make it on my own; for some reason, hers always tasted much better.

    My grandma was a great cook and baker; she has so many recipes that we all have enjoyed and loved. If you have ever come to one of my Uncle Les’s fundraisers, joined us in a family dinner or visited her at her home, she always had great food and awesome desserts to share with others.

    As she was getting older, she stopped cooking as much. In recent years, I was going through her recipes and decided to cook them for her. I cooked everything from BBQ hot dogs, lasagna, banana muffins, stew, Chicken Divan and more. She would compliment me on how good it was and I responded to her with “Well, it’s your recipe.” She would laugh and keep enjoying her meal.

    Ingredients:
    Bottom Crust: (Butter Crunch)
    1 stick oleo (margarine or butter)
    1/4 cup brown sugar
    1 cup flour
    1/2 cup chopped nuts
    Filling:
    1 3 oz box jello (lemon)
    1 cup hot water
    3/4 cup sugar
    1 8 oz Cool Whip (or 1 bottle Avoset)
    1 8 oz cream cheese
    Topping:
    1 6 oz box jello (flavor of your choice,
    strawberry is the best)
    3 cups hot water

    Directions:
    Bottom crust: Cream sugar and butter, add flour and nuts. Press and spread into 9”x13” cake pan. Cook at 375 degrees for 10 minutes

    Filling: Dissolve jello in hot water and cool. Add cream cheese mixed with the sugar. Fold in Cool Whip (or whipped Avoset). Pour into cooled crust.

    Topping: Dissolve jello in hot water. Cool and chill.

    When about set, pour on cake.

    Makes: Approx. 30 2”x2” sq. | Total time: 45 min.


    Do you have a favorite recipe and story to share? For consideration in the next issue of Generations Magazine, mail your story and recipe to Generations Food & Story, PO Box 4213, Honolulu, HI 96812, or email them to Debra@generations808.com

    My fondest memories of my late grandma, Shirley Ihara, are of watching her cook and bake in the kitchen. During the holidays, she would make her Butter Crunch Jello Cream Cake and it was one of my favorites. She actually taught me this recipe when I was a child, but I really didn’t make it…

  • Ban the Grinch This Christmas

    Holidays are for giving, but for some it’s a season of taking. Don’t let a Grinch ruin your holiday! Below are some common scams and what to look out for to avoid them.

    Online Shopping Scams

    Scammers tout incredible deals in emails, websites and social media posts. But clicking the link may take you to fake websites that take your money but don’t send you the item or what arrives is a low-quality version of what you were expecting. Even worse, a visit to a fake site could enable crooks to download malicious software or steal personal information, logins and passwords.

    TIPS:

    • If a deal seems too good to be true, it probably is.
    • If you’ve never heard of a company before, check it out.

    Drained Gift Card Scams

    Criminals can scratch off strips on the back of gift cards, get the PIN and return them to store racks. Once the card is purchased and loaded, a computer program notifies them and criminals are able to almost instantly drain the value from the cards.

    TIPS:

    • Purchase gift cards online directly from the merchant. If you do purchase gift cards at a brick-and-mortar store, inspect them for damage or tampering.
    • Keep the purchase and activation receipts. You may not have any recourse, but at least with the receipts, you have a shot.

    Package Delivery Scams

    Porch pirates steal packages from people’s front doors — they are out in force over the holiday season. Scammers will also claim to be carriers (FedEx, UPS, etc.) and send fake package notifications to steal money or personal information.

    TIPS:

    • Ask shippers if packages can he held at their location until you are notified, or have them delivered in a location that would be hard to see from the road.
    • Ignore urgent, unsolicited demands about shipments that you don’t know about. Check directly with the shipper. Don’t click on links.


    AARP HAWAI‘I (501(c) nonprofit)
    1001 Bishop St., Ste. 625, Honolulu, HI 96813
    866-295-7282 | hiaarp@aarp.org
    states.aarp.org/hawaii
    Fraud Watch Network Helpline: 877-908-3360 (Be sure to leave a message to get a call-back.)
    aarp.org/fraudwatchnetwork
    Local AARP events and webinars: aarp.org/local

    Holidays are for giving, but for some it’s a season of taking. Don’t let a Grinch ruin your holiday! Below are some common scams and what to look out for to avoid them.

  • Ask a Kupuna

    When I suggested a Q&A for Generations Magazine, I didn’t expect that so many ku¯puna would be so shy! Mahalo to everyone willing to share their answers with me and our readers. Look out for my next column of “Ask a Kupuna” in the next issue. The question will be “Do you have a favorite Valentine’s Day story to share?”

    It’s that time of year when we fondly reminisce about family gatherings and vacations, so my question for this issue was:

    “What is your favorite Christmas memory?”

    Sharon M. (68) Honolulu
    When the kids were young, we would have Christmas Eve family gathering. We would play games, eat onolicious food and Santa would visit and bring all the kids a gift. Just seeing their eyes light up with amazement when they opened their gift from Santa were happy times and special moments… Christmas spirit!!

    SC Anderson (69) Honolulu
    Over Christmas 2020, my mother visited me from Pennsylvania and we enjoyed several O‘ahu Christmas traditions: watching boat and marching band parades; partaking in a festive trolly ride; and visiting Honolulu Hale to see the decorations outside and the annual tree and wreath decorating contests inside of the building.

    Nathan Y. (76) Ewa Beach
    My special Christmas memory was when our daughter was in elementary school. We’d decorate the tree together, do lots of family photos with our dog… trying to get everyone looking at the camera simultaneously, stuff stockings with little goodies, and on Christmas morning we’d set up “Deal or No Deal” for her. She was so excited.

    Alfred K. (94) Mililani
    Christmas Markets in Germany and Austria was my favorite time. In many cities during the first week in December, there were booths for a craft fair, and seasonal food and drinks to enjoy. There were Christmas lights and decorations, with lots of fun music. There was also a Santa who climbed into buildings with gifts.


    Call Sherry Goya at 808-722-8487 or email, sgoyallc@aol.com by November 20, 2023 to answer the “Ask a Kupuna” question for Jan/Feb 2024: “Do you have a favorite Valentine’s Day story to share?” And if you have a question you’d like to suggest, feel free to do so!

    It’s that time of year when we fondly reminisce about family gatherings and vacations, so my question for this issue was: “What is your favorite Christmas memory?”

  • Finding Balance and Joy in Your Life

    Some things are universal to the human race. The night sky is one of them, for we can all look up and feel connected to the moon and stars. Perhaps we have even placed a lost loved one there in the firmament and look to them for guidance when times are tough.

    In her recent memoir, Under a Full Moon and a Guiding Star, Lani Almanza shares the wisdoms she learned while caring for her youngest son Jacob, who passed away in 2005, from cancer, at age 22. Drawing on her experiences from childhood on, she offers us ways to navigate pain and loss, sharing personal stories, images, meditations and lessons that enable caregivers to process their journey and live an “activated life.”

    The book is divided into three parts: Doing and Being, Being and Becoming, and Alaka‘i Life Lessons. Alaka‘i is a Hawaiian word that signifies a leader or a guide and, as a verb, the act of doing that. The resources in Part III guide us towards transformative well-being so we can each live a healthier, happier life. Many can be practiced daily.

    Wherever you are on life’s journey, this 166-page gem will inspire you to find balance and joy in your life.


    UNDER A FULL MOON AND A GUIDING STAR
    by Lani Almanza, is available in hardcover, paperback and Kindle formats from Amazon.
    alakaiassociates.com/book

    Some things are universal to the human race. The night sky is one of them, for we can all look up and feel connected to the moon and stars. Perhaps we have even placed a lost loved one there in the firmament and look to them for guidance when times are tough. In her recent…

  • The Sewing Hui

    Nestled in the quiet paniolo town of Makawao in Upcountry Maui lies a powerhouse of volunteer sewists. Jennifer Oberg, a dressmaker who specializes in custom wedding gowns, opens her studio on a weekly basis for The Sewing Hui to gather, create, and talk story. On most Thursdays, you’ll find people from Upcountry, Kihei, Kahului, Lahaina and even visitors sewing together.

    This group came together as the Maui Face Mask Project in the spring of 2020. The project was started to address the critical shortage of N-95 face masks on Maui. 10,411 high quality filter face masks were created for Maui’s healthcare providers. Since then, the volunteers wanted to continue sewing for the community, and became The Sewing Hui in June 2020. The Sewing Hui maintained a core group of volunteers, mostly retirees. Friendships have been formed and good work has been  accomplished.

    Past initiatives include 13,000 fabric masks for organizations and community members, fleece blankets for kūpuna in long term care facilities, shorts and bags for the unsheltered, costumes for local dance schools, garments for May Day celebrations, and walker bags for kūpuna. The next big project is costume design for the December 2023 production of The Nutcracker ballet by Alexander Academy of Performing Arts on Maui.

    Current projects are helping those displaced by the recent fires. The studio is buzzing with people cutting and sewing pillowcases and walker/ wheelchair bags. We’ve put the word out to other sewing organizations around the world, and they have responded with donations and support. We appreciate all the love and concern everyone around the world has for Maui. Contact the hui for more information, to volunteer, or to make a supply or monetary donation to our cause.


    THE SEWING HUI OF MAUI
    thesewinghui@gmail.com | thesewinghui.com
    facebook.com/thesewinghui
    instagram.com/thesewinghui

    Nestled in the quiet paniolo town of Makawao in Upcountry Maui lies a powerhouse of volunteer sewists. Jennifer Oberg, a dressmaker who specializes in custom wedding gowns, opens her studio on a weekly basis for The Sewing Hui to gather, create, and talk story. On most Thursdays, you’ll find people from Upcountry, Kihei, Kahului, Lahaina…