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  • Avoid Kūpuna Caring for Kūpuna

    There is nothing more frightening than the image of a 93-year-old helping a 96-year-old step into the shower or stumble down a stairway. While this scenario is becoming more common in Hawai‘i, the reality is this generation wants to take care of themselves.

    Our loved ones’ important expectations include privacy, dignity, independence and more. These are the folks who have always made it through tough times. Allowing others, even family, to help them may cause anxiety and hurt feelings.

    Situations are bound to come up — a fall, a missed medication, lack of nutrition or a fender bender — and help will be required. These can be considered opportunities that finally allow the decision to be made to get help.

    But therein lies the dilemma… allowing the decision. Families need to recognize timing and know when to say a change is needed.

    Sometimes professional medical advice can be invaluable. Most families feel a great sense of relief knowing there are others involved in managing a crisis. This does not mean the crisis will end, but it does give families access to another resource they did not have before.

    A home health agency can offer families a way to start a discussion about care for their loved one. There are many options in the community; in-home help is a good place to start.

    Here are some things to remember when the times comes to start looking for care:

    • A little goes a long way. Think about starting in-home care one day a week. This beginning point will provide a smoother, more gradual  transition, so there is less chance that your loved one will feel overwhelmed.
    • Establish a relationship with the home health agency. Remember, you are working with people who know what you are dealing with. They have heard it all. Don’t be afraid to tell them the whole story.
    • Clarify expectations on scheduling, caregiver turnover, training and orienting to daily care.
    • Understand what you are getting. If your loved one needs advanced medical care and has multiple chronic conditions, you may want to involve a home health agency rather than a home care company. That way, there will be a medical professional such as a nurse involved with the care plan. Caregivers from home care companies are limited as to what tasks they can perform in the home.

    If families can coordinate, communicate and have patience with the home health agency, they will have access to a healthcare professional who can be objective and encourage changes in frequency of care as the needs of the loved one decrease or increase.

    Building trust beforehand will make this transition easier. Start the conversation and do some research before the kupuna in your life ends up caring for another kupuna in their life.


    ATTENTION PLUS CARE HOME HEALTHCARE
    Accredited by The Joint Commission
    1580 Makaloa St., Ste. 1060, Honolulu, HI 96814
    808-739-2811 | www.attentionplus.com
    AGING IN HAWAII EDUCATIONAL OUTREACH PROGRAM
    by Attention Plus Care — a program providing resources for seniors and their families, covering different aging topics each month. For class information and upcoming topics, call 808-440-9356.

    There is nothing more frightening than the image of a 93-year-old helping a 96-year-old step into the shower or stumble down a stairway. While this scenario is becoming more common in Hawai‘i, the reality is this generation wants to take care of themselves.

  • Tips to Help Minimize the Risk of Falling

    Do you ever feel faint or lose your balance? Are your legs unsteady or seem like they’ll give way? Would you feel safer using a walker or cane?

    If you answered yes to any of these questions, talk to your doctor about preventing falls that can lead to serious injury. Meanwhile, consider these other ways you can help fall-proof your life.

    ■ Get rid of clutter. It’s a good idea to remove cords, crowded furniture, slippery rugs and anything you can trip over at home. Good lighting is essential. Consider night lights for your bedroom, hallways and bathroom.
    ■ Wear it wisely. Replace slippery shoes with non-skid, safer alternatives. Avoid wearing long clothing, such as mu‘umu‘u or robes, and blankets that could get caught under your feet.
    ■ Adjust your glasses. If your glasses (bifocals, transition lenses) make it difficult to perceive changes in elevation, such as stairs, curbs and driveways, make an eye doctor appointment.
    ■ Check your medications. Some medications may cause side effects that can lead to a fall. It’s important to regularly review your medications with your doctor. (Be sure to include all over-the-counter medicines, supplements and herbal medications you take.)
    ■ Plan ahead. If possible, sign up for a medical alert system, or keep a portable or mobile phone nearby. Voice-activated devices such as smart watches and virtual assistants (Amazon Echo, Google Home) can also be used to call for help in a fall emergency. It’s a good idea to give a spare key to a family member or a friend, and to program their phone numbers in your phone.
    ■ If you fall and can’t get up… If you need help, try to make noise, shout, bang on something, call 911 or press your medical alert button. Move your legs, arms and lift your hips slightly to help prevent pressure sores from starting.
    ■ Improve balance with leg bends. Bend one knee so your foot comes up behind you and is level with your knee. Lower your foot to the floor. Repeat with the other leg. Hold on to a sturdy chair or wall. Be sure to talk to your doctor before doing this or any other exercise program.
    ■ Add strength to your core. Sit in a sturdy chair placed against a wall. Stand up without using your hands. If this is too hard, start by using a pillow on the chair until you get stronger. Repeat 10 to 15 times, if possible. Again, talk to your doctor before doing this or any other exercise program.


    KAISER FOUNDATION HEALTH PLAN, INC.
    711 Kapiolani Blvd., Honolulu, HI 96813
    808-432-5915 (TTY 711) | www.kp.org
    This article contains health and wellness or prevention information.

    Do you ever feel faint or lose your balance? Are your legs unsteady or seem like they’ll give way? Would you feel safer using a walker or cane? If you answered yes to any of these questions, talk to your doctor about preventing falls that can lead to serious injury. Meanwhile, consider these other ways…

  • Stress is Linked to Alzheimer’s Dementia

    Senior women sitting at a table and solve crosswords.Alzheimer’s, the most common cause of dementia, is a disease of the brain that leads to loss of memory and function due to damaged and dying brain cells. The early symptoms include forgetfulness, lack of focus, trouble with decision-making, confusion and poor judgement.

    Currently, doctors can only provide ways to help delay its progression and severity. But recent research has shown a few ways to prevent dementia. Aside from maintaining a daily exercise regime, healthy blood pressure, and healthy dietary fat and sugar levels, two additional measures can be used to help prevent the disease.

    As much as possible, avoid chronic emotional distress, which can trigger dementia symptoms. Toxic levels of stress have been shown to shrink the hippocampus, where memories are stored.

    Keep your brain busy and stimulated — in line with the “use it or lose it” adage. One must continually engage in and practice an ability or risk losing it. That applies to mental activity as well. A study revealed strong evidence that retiring early can speed up the onset of dementia, but showed a significant decrease in the risk of developing dementia with retirement at an older age. For example, there was a 14 percent reduction in Alzheimer’s in workers who retired at 65 over those who retired at 60 . There is no cure, yet, so the best treatment is to avoid stress and stay active.


    OHANA PACIFIC MEDICAL LLC
    428 Kawaihae St., #148, Honolulu, HI 96825
    808-930-9858 | opm@ohanapacific.org
    www.ohanapacificmedical.org

    Alzheimer’s, the most common cause of dementia, is a disease of the brain that leads to loss of memory and function due to damaged and dying brain cells. The early symptoms include forgetfulness, lack of focus, trouble with decision-making, confusion and poor judgement.

  • Better Posture, Better Health

    Mention posture and everyone sits or stands straighter. But are you truly aligned? Most people have some type of asymmetry and don’t even know it. It’s impossible to correct an imbalance you aren’t aware of.

    Properly aligned spine and joints, and functionally balanced muscles allow your body to move with optimum efficiency and minimize the risk of injury or permanent structural damage. Achieving this state requires self-awareness.

    How do you find your neutral? Start by standing in front of a mirror. Check if your shoulders are the same height. Are your thumbs pointing towards the mirror or do you see the backs of your hands? Is one hip higher than the other? Are your knees and ankles straight, or caving in or bowing out? Are you leaning forward or backward? Do
    you lock your knees?

    Close your eyes, move around and realign yourself. Open your eyes. If you’re still crooked, keep trying with your eyes shut until you have achieved proper alignment.

    Awareness is just the first step; next is exercise — stretching tight muscles and strengthening postural muscles to keep you aligned. Repetition is the key to developing habits that lead to improved balance, function and health.


    GYMGUYZ Urban Honolulu
    Home Personal Training & Mobile Fitness
    808-638-2525
    gymguyzurbanhonolulu@gymguyz.com
    www.gymguyz.com

    Mention posture and everyone sits or stands straighter. But are you truly aligned? Most people have some type of asymmetry and don’t even know it. It’s impossible to correct an imbalance you aren’t aware of. Properly aligned spine and joints, and functionally balanced muscles allow your body to move with optimum efficiency and minimize the…

  • See Your Dentist to Reduce Alzheimer’s Risk

    Your oral health directly impacts your overall health, which is why seeing a dentist is just as important as seeing your primary care physician. Your dentist can determine if you will come across issues such as gum disease, which may impact your quality of life and even raise your risk for systemic disease in your later years.

    Gum disease, or periodontal disease, is an inflammation of the gums due to plaque and bacteria buildup. When plaque isn’t removed, it hardens into tartar and produces toxins that break down the gum tissue, causing them to pull away from your teeth and form pockets that fill with bacteria. Without a solid routine that includes brushing twice a day, flossing daily and visiting a dentist for an exam and cleaning twice annually, this condition can increase your risk for heart disease, diabetes and Alzheimer’s disease.

    Studies show those who develop gum disease early in life are four times more likely to develop Alzheimer’s disease or dementia. The type of bacteria that cause gum disease can destroy brain neurons, a hallmark feature of Alzheimer’s. Your dentist can help target gum disease and may increase your cleanings throughout the year to prevent plaque and bacteria buildup, lowering your risk of disease.

    Find a dentist near you and schedule an appointment today to live well and smile more.


    HAWAII DENTAL SERVICE
    Kahala Howser, Wellness & Events Manager
    808-521-1431 | khowser@hawaiidentalservice.com
    www.HawaiiDentalService.com

    Your oral health directly impacts your overall health, which is why seeing a dentist is just as important as seeing your primary care physician. Your dentist can determine if you will come across issues such as gum disease, which may impact your quality of life and even raise your risk for systemic disease in your…

  • 3 Steps to Help Kūpuna Cope With Change

    Change continues at each phase of life and is not always easy. That is why changes like retirement, new living arrangements, health diagnoses, and the loss of close friends or a spouse can leave kūpuna feeling vulnerable and insecure. Whether you are in a season of change or helping an older loved one navigate new circumstances, there are practical steps you can take to make change a positive process.

    Reinforce with love. We all want our kūpuna to be safe and sound. Support and empathize with them by reassuring them that current changes are being made to benefit their wellbeing — not to take away their independence.

    Have a plan. Adequate planning and a specific timeline give your kūpuna the opportunity to adapt to these changes at a comfortable pace. A sensible plan facilitates a much smoother transition.

    Communication is key. Involve your kūpuna in the conversation. Explain your concerns and let them to do the same. Giving your kūpuna a platform for expressing themselves will help build a stronger foundation in order to address the need for change. Change is tough and emotions may run high. But leading with love, having a plan and being communicative will help facilitate this process.


    HOME CARE BY ALTRES MEDICAL 808-591-4930 | homecare@altres.com www.altreshomecare.com

    Change continues at each phase of life and is not always easy. That is why changes like retirement, new living arrangements, health diagnoses, and the loss of close friends or a spouse can leave kūpuna feeling vulnerable and insecure. Whether you are in a season of change or helping an older loved one navigate new…

  • Rev Up Your Mother-Daughter Relationship!

    Mother and adult daughter sitting on sofa and having serious conversationAs an adult daughter, do you  ever feel like a little girl when conversations with your mother end in misfires, teary rants or silence? You’re not alone — it happens this way for 43.5 percent of us. However, there’s hope. By using ASK Presetting, you can stop walking on eggshells.

    ASK Presetting is a precise communication method that involves pre-framing and rehearsing questions, comments, words and tones to avoid emotional collateral damage. When presetting tough topics with your mother, for example, appeal to her sweet side; don’t make her feel wrong.

    Using this method, you can head off hurtful words in as little as seven minutes and stop feeling verbally attacked. Start by sprinkling your conversations with these two-word phrases: “I feel,” “I’m open,” “I’m confused,” and “Tell me more,” when your mother’s (or father’s and siblings’) words cause anxiety.

    If you’re discussing tough and tender topics, but she keeps pinpointing your mistakes, you can calmly express yourself using this method without squabbling. And you won’t require years of therapy, either. Instead, you’ll be communicated with her respectfully and with love.


    ANNETTE PANG-LIFE COACH VILLAGE, LLC
    2383 Beckwith St., Honolulu, HI 96822
    808-372-3478 | ap@annettepang.com
    www.annettepang.com

    As an adult daughter, do you  ever feel like a little girl when conversations with your mother end in misfires, teary rants or silence? You’re not alone — it happens this way for 43.5 percent of us. However, there’s hope. By using ASK Presetting, you can stop walking on eggshells.

  • Honoring Emmet White

    The Hawaii Pacific Gerontological Society will honor Emmet White at its virtual fundraiser on Nov. 4. His service and dedication to so many families, and his professional career serving kūpuna through the Arcadia Family of Companies, Hawaii Long Term Care Association, Hawaii Healthcare Association and the Central Union Church are legendary.

    After 23 years of service, Emmet retired as president and CEO from Arcadia. He chaired the Hawaii Long Term Care Association, now reunited with the Healthcare Association of Hawaii, and also served on the State Health Coordinating Council for the State Health, Planning & Development Agency. Emmet was also a member of the Oahu Workforce Development Board.

    A retired Army Reserve colonel, Emmet served as an ombudsman for the Department of Defense Employer Support of the Guard and Reserve Program. Prior to joining Arcadia, Emmet practiced law in Honolulu for 23 years and was appointed to the Court Annexed Arbitration Program in its early years. During that time he also served Central Union Church as moderator, trustee and deacon, as a member of the church’s Arcadia Committee, and then as a member and chair of Arcadia’s governing board.


    HAWAII PACIFIC GERONTOLOGICAL SOCIETY (501(c) 3 nonprofit)
    P.O. Box 3714, Honolulu, HI 96812
    Sherry Goya, HPGS Executive Director
    808-722-8487 | sgoyallc@aol.com
    www.hpgs.org

    The Hawaii Pacific Gerontological Society will honor Emmet White at its virtual fundraiser on Nov. 4. His service and dedication to so many families, and his professional career serving kūpuna through the Arcadia Family of Companies, Hawaii Long Term Care Association, Hawaii Healthcare Association and the Central Union Church are legendary.

  • Veterans to Gather for Memorial Celebration

    For the past 20-plus years at midnight on the 23rd of December, a gathering of veterans has taken place near the Capitol, by the memorial for our Korean and Vietnam brethren. The group includes men and women who have served in various campaigns. It is a big crowd.

    There is usually some coffee, water and a snack or two. Mostly, it is a gathering to check in and renew “welcome home” greetings. It is also a time to notice who is not in attendance.

    Our voices are softer and our hearing isn’t quite 100 percent, so the words of those leading prayers or the roll call of our missing companions becomes more personal as we lean in and turn up hearing aids.

    Our midnight gathering leads into the 24th of December in Hawai‘i and Christmas Day in Vietnam.

    Many recall our Christmas in Vietnam — where we were, who we were with, whether the cease fire remained intact that day and what was for dinner (hot chow, and if Santa was generous, one or two bottles of beer).

    COVID-19 had us cancel the 2020 event. Sadly, four of us will not be at the 2021 celebration. Please join us in remembrance on Dec. 23 at midnight at the Hawai‘i State Capitol Korea-Vietnam Veterans Memorial.


    VFW DEPARTMENT OF HAWAII
    438 Hobron Lane, Ste. 407, Honolulu, HI 96815
    808-946-7250 | adj@vfw-dept-hi.org
    www.vfw-dept-hi.org/

    For the past 20-plus years at midnight on the 23rd of December, a gathering of veterans has taken place near the Capitol, by the memorial for our Korean and Vietnam brethren. The group includes men and women who have served in various campaigns. It is a big crowd.

  • Lei of Aloha

    Lei of Aloha

    In Hawai‘i, any occasion can be made more special by the giving of a lei. Whether it’s for love, a celebration or to honor someone, you can choose the one that symbolizes the sentiment you want to convey or select the one that suits your taste. All represent the rich heritage of the lei.

    Lei Day, May 1, is dedicated to the Hawaiian tradition of making and giving lei. But some may not know the the tradition entails much more than the officially dedicated day. The traditions that surround lei make them appropriate for many occasions. Hawaiian tradition also offers particular lei for celebrations and seasonal events.

    Giving a lei symbolizes friendship, love, respect and honor. It is a gift for greeting someone warmly. It represents the spirit of aloha. Its beauty and meaning flow from the heart of the giver.

    A Hawaiian Tradition

    The tradition of adorning themselves with wreaths of local vines and flowers to honor their gods came to Hawai‘i with the Polynesians who settled here long ago. They brought with them many of the plants they needed for daily life — plants for medicinal use, plants for food and plants that they brought for their sweet scent for use as a personal embellishment.

    In their new island home, lei came to signify royalty, rank, status and wealth. The geography of the area, the religion of its people and the tradition of the hula were all associated with the lei they wore. As time passed, they developed their own unique culture and traditions.

    The new Native Hawaiians found many other items, including hala and maile, that could be fashioned into adornments. In Old Hawai‘i, lei were created with the lush flowers, vines and leaf stems of every kind from every island — even seaweed from the rich Hawaiian waters. Lei were also made with ivory, bone, seeds, kukui nuts, hair, teeth, shells and feathers.

    The pupu lei was made from shells and the hulu manu lei was made from feathers. Niho palaoa lei were made of the bones of the walrus and whale held together by human hair, which were passed down through generations.

    Other plants and materials were introduced later, such as the carnation, orchid and plumeria.

    Kapono Kamaunu learned about Hawaiian culture, hula, chanting and more from Kumu Hula Keli‘i Tau‘ā.
    Kapono Kamaunu learned about Hawaiian culture, hula, chanting and more from Kumu Hula Keli‘i Tau‘ā.

    Lei and Hula

    What Kapono Kamaunu knows about lei and Hawaiian culture, he didn’t learn growing up. He was raised on O‘ahu, where his childhood activities and interests mostly revolved around Waikīkī Beach and sports. When he moved to Maui in 1993, he met Kumu Hula Keli‘i Tau‘ā, a teacher at Baldwin High School. As a freshman, he not only learned about hula and chanting, but other aspects of the Hawaiian culture, as well.

    Kapono and his wife, Priscilla, became kumu hula 10 years later, offering training for hālau hula on Zoom since the pandemic began. They own and run a home-based hula implement-making business called “Na Kani O Hula.” Kapono works as a cultural advisor at the Fairmont Kealani and performs at the Old Lāhainā Lū‘au, as well.

    “Through hula, we learned about lei-making, Hawaiian history and culture,” he says.

    In Old Hawai‘i, the major types of lei were each related to different spirits and used for different reasons. Many were related to Hawaiian myths and religious customs, Kapono says.

    Brief descriptions of lei-making styles“It goes back to hula,” says Kapono. “For most of the year, the lives of the Hawaiian people were strictly governed by a set of laws called ‘kapu.’ Everything they did was directed by these kapu, including hula. But during the Makahiki season (October or November through February or March), the ancient Hawaiian New Year festival in honor of Lono, many kapu were suspended. This time of year, kane (men) were allowed to perform hula on heiau, traditional religious temples. Makahiki was a time of peace, gathering and hula performances without restriction. For ceremonial purposes, hula dancers would wear lei.”

    Kapono and his wife Priscilla own and run a home-based hula implement making business.
    Kapono and his wife Priscilla own and run a home-based hula implement-making business.

    Traditionally, hula dancers wear specific lei to reflect the dance they are performing, especially in a competition setting. Dancers tie in the story — the chant or mo‘ōlelo — its setting and the flowers, ferns and other materials found in the location relevant to the story, says Kapono.

    “In hula, we say kinolau — the divine is everywhere, and everything is the divine. It is the physical embodiment of the many Hawaiian gods and goddesses.”

    “After asking permission from Laka first, hula dancers would gather ferns, such as palapalai, laua‘e ferns and maile, for their adornments in ceremonial performances and other practices as well,” says Kapono. “The gathered vines, leaves or flowers were placed on the kuahu hula (hula altar) dedicated to Laka.”

    “Whatever is in the song, we aim for the closest possible representation.”

    “For example, Pele and her sister Hi‘iaka are represented by the red flowers of the ‘ohi‘a lehua brought to the islands by the Polynesians settlers. So when you do a dance about Pele, you would wear a haku (braided) lei or a lei po‘o made of ‘ohi‘a lehua, as well as a lei a‘i (a neck lei).”

    For centuries, lei made from the fragrant leaves of maile have been used to communicate love, respect, blessing, enduring devotion, reverence, friendship and a desire for peace.
    For centuries, lei made from the fragrant leaves of maile have been used to communicate love, respect, blessing, enduring devotion, reverence, friendship and a desire for peace.

    Traditional Meanings and Uses of Lei

    One of the most popular of all the lei varieties was the maile lei, made from a leaf-covered vine with a sweet and spicy scent. This vine was worn around the neck, draping freely down to the waist. The maile lei was related to the spirit of the hula dance and represented Laka, the goddess of hula, as well as other sacred spirits.

    For chieftains and members of royalty, the ilima was preferred. The full, lush lei was made from hundreds of delicate orange blossoms.

    The ti plant has a long tradition of being planted outside homes to keep evil spirits away. Ti stalks were used to proclaim peace and to call a truce. A lei was made by tying ti leaves together. The open lei was worn by physicians and priests.

    Limu kala, a type of seaweed, was gathered and used in many different ways — for religious purposes, as medicine, for consumption or as a lei. Traditionally, limu kala was gathering, fashioned into a lei and worn by a person suffering from an illness. The ill person or a kahuna would then pray to Kanaloa. When prayers were completed, the wearer of the lei would fully immerse him or herself in the ocean. In time, the lei would be swept into the sea as an offering to Kanaloa, in hopes of cleansing the wearer of the aliment.

    Lei Traditions of Yesterday and Today

    By fusing their island lifestyle with their  sacred rituals and the natural elements around them, Hawaiians created lei that began to be worn for virtually every occasion by both commoners (maka‘ainānā) and chiefs (ali‘i) alike.

    A lei po‘o is any lei that is worn around the head. What is often referred to as a haku lei is actually a lei po‘o crafted in the haku style.
    A lei po‘o is any lei that is worn around the head. What is often referred to as a haku lei is actually a lei po‘o crafted in the haku style.

    “Today, lei are used for an array of occasions and it is widely accepted throughout Hawai‘i Nei that any type of lei can be worn by anyone and everyone,” says Kapono. “One thing that hasn’t changed is that the giving of a lei symbolizes giving your mana to someone else.”

    Mana is a supernatural force that may be ascribed to persons, spirits or inanimate objects. It may be good or evil; beneficial or dangerous.

    “When we are making lei, we want to ensure that we are putting the best of our spiritual energy into the lei,” says Kapono, “so when we give it to someone, we are giving them good energy, connection and love. Lei are the quintessential symbol
    of love; of aloha.”

    The type of flower made into a lei and gifted to a loved one has more to do with personal preference and seasonal availability than symbolism, says Kapono.

    Although the lei of today are much like those worn in Old Hawai‘i when the first Polynesians settled the islands, their meaning and presentation has changed over the years.

    Lei in Old Hawai‘i symbolized the status of the wearer and were presented by bowing and holding out the lei for the recipient to take.

    “Traditionally, it was disrespectful to drape a lei over a person’s head, particularly when that someone was royalty,” says Kapono. “You do not want someone to interfere with your connection to Akua by having them cut off your mana.” This presentation method gave the recipient the option of taking it and putting it on themselves, giving it away, putting it on an altar or taking it to the ocean. “Because, just as lei are made and presented with love, they can also have bad intentions.”

    Adorned with a bounty of colorful lei, the regal pa‘u riders and their horses are the highlight of every parade
    Adorned with a bounty of colorful lei, the regal pa‘u riders and their horses are the highlight of every parade

    Around the 1840s, when Steamer Days or Boat Days began at Aloha Tower and Honolulu Harbor, visitors were greeted with armloads of lei. It may have been at this time that lei began to be placed over the heads of those arriving or departing, accompanied by a kiss on the cheek. That particular tradition came to a halt with the arrival of jet planes in the 1950s. To accommodate visitors, Daniel K. Inouye International Airport’s lei stands are located in the area.

    Although most islanders believe that anyone can wear any type of lei for any occasion, Hawaiian tradition dictates the use of specific lei that are symbolic of the occasion, related to the season and dependent on the time of year the flower is in bloom. Worn at other times, it can bring the wearer bad luck.

    For example, a lei made from the yellow, orange and red keys of the pineapple-like hala fruit interlaced with maile leaf or laua‘e fern can be worn at the beginning of Makahiki season, the Hawaiian New Year. Worn at this time, the hala lei invites good luck, pushes bad luck aside and prompts the wearer to forgive past grudges. However, worn at other times of the year, it can bring the wearer bad luck. The lei is associated with death and is often worn at funerals.

    Although there is significant meaning associated with the giving of a lei, it is open to different interpretations by the maker, seller, giver or recipient. But it may be wise to be aware of certain traditional details.

    “Some people still believe that it is inappropriate to give a pregnant woman a closed lei,” says Kapono. “An open lei may be given, as it symbolizes that the baby will be unencumbered and unharmed by the umbilical cord, ensuring it will not be tangled around its neck in the womb.”

    Lei are often referenced as being created in a circle to symbolize love and the family circle. “Lei, like many of our nāmea Hawai‘i (Hawaiian arts), have grown and evolved into priceless artifacts that are shared around the world. Whether it’s an heirloom feather lei, a lei pupu that is passed down from generation to generation, or lei made from fragrant flowers and beautiful ferns, the joy of gifting and receiving a lei filled with the aloha spirit can brighten anyone’s day — even during the darkest of times.”

    Ku‘ulei Ka‘ae makes and sells lei from Pua Melia, her stand near Daniel K. Inouye International Airport. Ku‘ulei’s family began selling lei four generations ago, beginning with her great-grandparents. The other women selling lei here are also descendants of the original Native Hawaiian airport lei sellers.
    Ku‘ulei Ka‘ae makes and sells lei from Pua Melia, her stand near Daniel K. Inouye International Airport. Ku‘ulei’s family began selling lei four generations ago, beginning with her great-grandparents. The other women selling lei here are also descendants of the original Native Hawaiian airport lei sellers.
    Ku‘ulei Ka‘ae
    Ku‘ulei Ka‘ae

    A Family Tradition: Love From the Lei-Sellers

    “That is what we have to offer in this pandemic — love. I know that when people receive lei, they feel the love we put into them,” says Ku‘ulei Ka‘ae, who makes and sells lei from her stand near Daniel K. Inouye International Airport. “I don’t think a lot of people realize what a lei can do for a person. The type of lei you give is a personal choice. Whether it is pikake, plumeria, ginger, pakalana or double tuberose, the giver must love the flower as it is a symbol and extension of their love for the recipient.”

    Ku‘ulei’s family began selling lei four generations ago, beginning with her great-grandparents. They sold in different locations, such as Chinatown and Aloha Tower. Their daughter, Sophia Ventura, Ku‘ulei’s grandmother, had a 1932 Ford truck that her husband equipped with hooks for displaying the lei. She also sold lei at Fort DeRussy — the only lei seller there. She was later invited to set up shop near the access road of the then Aeronautics Aviation Airport.

    Ku‘ulei was around 9 when the stands moved to Lagoon Drive in 1963. “My mother and I were the first ones to open our doors in this new building.” In the early 1990s, they were relocated to the concrete building they now occupy.

    The women selling lei at this location are descendants of the original Native Hawaiian airport lei sellers. Since Ku‘ulei is the only daughter in her family, her mother gave her Pua Melia, the Airport Lei Stand she operates to this day.

    “The only time I ever got a lei growing up was  when my mom brought home a plumeria lei for May Day. I wondered, why a plumeria? I asked my mom why I couldn’t have a double carnation lei or pikake. She said, ‘Because the plumeria is the most beautiful flower. One day you will understand.’ The point was, when you get a lei, it is from the heart. It is aloha; it is love. When you are younger, you don’t really understand the depth and meaning.”

    “Then when I was in ninth grade, she brought me a double carnation. I was so thrilled! When I went to school, I put it on. I took it off about a half-hour later and gave it to a friend because I realized it didn’t mean anything to me. It wasn’t from my mother’s heart. She only got it for me because I asked for it. Oh how I wished I had that plumeria lei — it meant the world to me! I realized what my mother was saying. The most beautiful lei comes from the heart.”

    “I will wear your love as a lei,” Ku‘ulei recited in Hawaiian.”

    Hawai‘i’s lei have become revered all over the world for their beauty and fragrance. “Today, many lei or hula practitioners teach the traditional art and practices of lei, continuing to strengthen our heritage through our younger generation, visitors and practitioners abroad so we can wrap a lei of peace and aloha around the entire world,” says Kapono.

     

    Lei Day, May 1, is dedicated to the Hawaiian tradition of making and giving lei. But some may not know the the tradition entails much more than the officially dedicated day. The traditions that surround lei make them appropriate for many occasions. Hawaiian tradition also offers particular lei for celebrations and seasonal events.

  • Define Your Legacy’s Intentions

    According to the book, Preparing Heirs: Five Steps to a Successful Transition of Family Wealth and Values, “60 percent of transition failures were caused by a breakdown of communication and trust within the family unit.” With the aging demographic of baby boomers, the high cost of living in Hawai‘i and the increase in multigenerational homes, the potential influx in trust litigation is foreseeable. Where it is appropriate, I believe that encouraging clients to partake in difficult and potentially messy family discussions about their legacy and explaining “the why” behind their intentions is an integral part of preventing unwanted litigation. It may protect the overall health of the family. When willing clients feel the need for assistance in engaging in family discussions, a mediator may be effective in resolving any family disputes.

    I also recommend that clients further solidify their intentions by writing them down as the foundation of their estate plan. Those creating a trust should prepare written guidance as to its underlying intentions. Having a well-defined estate plan will help give you and your family more peace of mind and promote harmony. But please make sure that when you are working with your estate planning attorney that your intentions are clearly defined. It can make all the difference.


    STEPHEN B. YIM, ATTORNEY AT LAW
    2054 S. Beretania St., Honolulu, HI 96826
    808-524-0251 | www.stephenyimestateplanning.com

    According to the book, Preparing Heirs: Five Steps to a Successful Transition of Family Wealth and Values, “60 percent of transition failures were caused by a breakdown of communication and trust within the family unit.” With the aging demographic of baby boomers, the high cost of living in Hawai‘i and the increase in multigenerational homes,…

  • Ingredients for Cooking Up a Scam

    In the dozen-plus years I have specialized in prosecuting elder financial fraud cases at the Prosecutor’s Office, it has become pretty easy for me to spot and disassemble how the majority of scams work. Like how a master chef can  taste a dish and tell you the ingredients he tastes, I can smell a “business opportunity” or a get rich quick scheme and identify the individual parts of it that will reveal it to be an actual scam.

    There are always certain ingredients present in a successful con. These elements, or red flags, of a scam can include anything from creating a sense of urgency in the victim, to playing on strong emotions, like fear or joy. The more of these elements present in the con, the more likely the con will be successful.

    For example, the lottery scam (where you are told you won a prize but have to pay a fee to collect it or lose it) has a lot of these scam components. First, you are told you won a prize (getting something for nothing and the strong emotion of joy created). You have to keep the winning of the lottery a secret because of “reasons” (secrecy and isolating the victim from seeking advice). You have to pay taxes or a fee very soon before you collect your winnings (create a sense of urgency and the strong emotion of fear of losing your prize). You make a payment, only to be told there are more unexpected payments to be made (fear of losing out on your initial investment — you start chasing your money).

    photo of grandmaOnce you recognize individual components of a deal, it becomes easier to realize when something may be actually a scam as opposed to a deal of a lifetime. The IRS is calling to say you are going to be arrested unless you pay them with a gift card immediately, or you receive a message from someone claiming to be a family member in peril in need of money, aka, the Grandma Scam (sense of urgency, creation of fear and isolating the victim from seeking good advice).

    The one main ingredient that all cons seem to share is that the scam artist wants a person to make an emotional decision about money. If you find yourself about to take any action where you are about to give up anything of value and you are doing it in response to a strong emotion, stop, take a breath and see if you can smell any scam ingredients that may be present.


    If you suspect elder abuse, call these numbers:
    Police: 911 | Adult Protective Services: 808-832-5115
    Elder Abuse Unit: 808-768-7536
    For questions, email ElderAbuse@honolulu.gov

    In the dozen-plus years I have specialized in prosecuting elder financial fraud cases at the Prosecutor’s Office, it has become pretty easy for me to spot and disassemble how the majority of scams work. Like how a master chef can taste a dish and tell you the ingredients he tastes, I can smell a “business…