Gen Xers are going to repeat what we Baby Boomers have been living through — caring for our parents and children while managing everything else. We can help our Gen Xer children by organizing our affairs and vowing to be practical.
Overcoming practical issues is not as difficult as managing the emotional dynamics of caregiving. Here are some suggestions from a Baby Boomer to a Generation Xer:
Listen: Listening and creating moments of shared communication can change your caregiving world. If cognitive issues make that difficult, listen for what can be shared — even for the 50th time. Soon enough, there will only be silence.
Set limits for yourself: You will face conflicting emotions. You must work to keep life in balance. Everything will not be what you wanted or expected. Your parents’ finances, personal strength and healthcare needs may make aging at home impossible for them. Be open to the alternatives available without guilt.
Accept imperfection: Accept what help is available and offered — even if it is not perfect or what you expected. Caregiving does not mean you provide all the care. It means you ensure that care is provided.
Remember, the moment in front of you is all you have. Be patient and do the best you can.
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