The most difficult aspect of providing care is developing the emotional honesty in accepting its’ realities. These include practical areas of financial needs and resource; availability of assistance from family members or friends; geographical restrictions; physical disabilities and often emotional or cognitive deficits.

Caregivers approach to caregiving is often an attitude of rehabilitation rather than accommodation. While physical therapy and cognitive exercise is great, an even greater focus should be enabling our loved ones in maintaining a comfortable lifestyle, providing accommodations for day-to-day tasks of life more manageable.

It’s important to consider our interactions with loved ones when it comes to questions impacting quality and longevity — learning how to guide a discussion, instead of a lecture or argument. We have the responsibility to provide care — comfort. Working toward that goal helps to relieve us of feeling personally responsible for every aspect of life. Including our loved ones in care planning helps things become more manageable. Understanding and accepting the process of aging enables us, as Caregivers, to provide a more compassionate and comforting level of care. Care that is focused on making life the best it can be, within the resources available. Rather than trying to cure aging, isn’t it better to understand the quality of a life, than the length of a life?

The Caregiver Foundation, a Hawai’i non-profit serves the emotional and practical needs of seniors, disabled adults and their caregivers.


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